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2010.02.27 05:23 Meades_Loves_Memes r/teenagers

teenagers is the biggest community forum run by teenagers for teenagers. Our subreddit is primarily for discussions and memes that an average teenager would enjoy to discuss about. We do not have any age-restriction in place but do keep in mind this is targeted for users between the ages of 13 to 19. Parents, teachers, and the like are welcomed to participate and ask any questions!
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2010.03.27 12:31 Get Motivated!

Welcome to /GetMotivated! We’re glad you made it. This is the subreddit that will help you finally get up and do what you *know* you need to do. It’s the subreddit to give and receive motivation through pictures, videos, text, music, AMA’s, personal stories, and anything and everything that you find particularly motivating and/or inspiring. So browse around, ask questions, give advice, form/join a support group. But don’t spend too much time here; you’ve got *better* things to do.
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2019.03.26 14:31 The_Quantum_Alpha WatchPeopleHighFive

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2020.10.25 13:09 Bu-nn-yy For anyone who is struggling real hard after a breakup. I’ve been there

I DONT KNOW WHOS GOING TO READ THIS HUGE MESS BUT IM SENDING IT ANYWAY BECAUSE I WANT TO. This is my first time seeing this group and wanted to share my experience just in case anyone is going through it. My breakup with who I thought was my soulmate was the most absolutely soul crushing heart breaking that’s ever happened to me. I was in love with him crazy, deeply and we were only together for about a year. We talked everyday, called, video chatted. Shared so many memories and great laughs until things just went downhill. Every relationship has it’s ups and downs, but sometimes the downs get too heavy, and there starts to become no more ups. Just downhill. I won’t say what happened but let’s just say there was mini stupid arguments that turned into big ones. Trust issues. All of that dumb stuff. Well point is, he left me. And my god I literally thought I was going to have a heart attack. A stroke. My heart felt like it was going to explode. Him leaving me, physically hurt me. I was so afraid. I couldn’t live without him. I cried so hard it hurt to cry. I cried so hard my chest hurt and felt like it was going to pop. I ugly cried. I begged him to stay. Cried. Poured my heart out. It was a damn nightmare. Everyday for MONTHS. And I mean months I tried contacting him. The worst part was that he was completely over me, and it was so easy. So easy for him to forget everything we had, like he moved on so quickly. All of our promises and future plans gone down the drown like NOTHING. And it pained me so much to see that. That I meant just the world to him a month ago, and now nothing. I hated myself. I hated my life. I hated everything. I lied in bed all day. Trying to contact him, to tell him I miss him. That I can’t go on with this pain, that I was sorry I was a mess. That I’ll change. That I’ll do WHATEVER for him, because I was so desperate. But nothing worked, he blocked me EVERYWHERE. And yes, I even made a fake account to contact him because I was that hurt and lost, and blocked again of course. Yes, that’s crazy but trust me when I tell you, I felt like the most heartbroken person in the world. I just couldn’t do it. I became depressed. Didn’t eat. Stayed in bed all day. Didn’t focus in class. Failed classes. Pushed everyone away. And still, cried everyday at night praying for him to just come back or to check up on me. That maybe the next time I message him, he’d realize what he lost. Every time I laughed or smiled it immediately went away because I had this empty void inside of me. Nothing made me happy anymore. I was broken. A broken human. Suicide. Suicide was on my mind. I contemplated it. Close to attempt, but never did because I didn’t want to hurt my family. Months of this. Maybe 8 months to a year of pain. Pain and wish I died in my sleep. Damn I sound pathetic. So as months go by, I ask for support in support groups. Everyone tells me they’re sorry. Things will get better. All that. But you read it and think “things will NOT get better, I KNOW they won’t” yep, been there. Didn’t believe ANYYYYYYY of it. Not 1 bit. Well, I was wrong. As time went on, I realized my worth. I cried thousands of tears for this guy who didn’t care less if I was crying or not. If I existed anymore. Every week without a message or anything from him, made me stronger. Made me see that he didn’t care, he doesn’t care, he never will again. It hurt like a bitch yes, yes it took awhile, but finally the pain would get less painful. Yes YOUD wake up in pain but you’d go on throughout ur day “they don’t like me, need to accept.” And repeat this to myself. The pain was easier to deal with. And without realizing it you will realize you start to wake up feeling better, you’ll think of them yes, but it’ll be better. Idk how to explain this but it literally genuinely got better. Not with the help of a rebound, but seriously with time. Time heals things. Best things to do is go out when you can, even with your parents. Spend time with your close siblings and let the pain out whenever you can to someone. It really helps and makes you feel better. AND DO NOT TEXT OR CALL YOUR EX. DO. NOT. it will reset the pain. But your pain won’t last forever. It won’t, u may think it will. But it really won’t. You need to trust me when I say I’ve been there. Because I seriously have, I thought ID NEVER recover. One day you will look back at it and laugh. Or smile. You will gain your strength back. You will be okay. You will be happy. And let me tell u now, I’m over this guy. He no longer crosses my mind at all. I’m so over him to the point me and him could be friends and I’d never even think of dating him again, ew no. Not anymore. And happiness will find you when you least expect it. So seriously, don’t lose hope and stay strong. Also, I learned to never ever beg for someone to stay in my life again after that. Never beg for someone to stay. It’s not worth it to yourself. Things may not last forever, but always opens doors to new and better things
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2020.10.25 08:49 Helpsavemykids How Identity Theft and Neglect to help Abused Children and Great father turns into a Nightmare From SATANS LEADERSHIP. “Against All ODDS

I’m Ronald Stefan Jones African American,DOB 09/06/1988 I played football basketball baseball and track loves animals and riding horses n being outdoors ALWYS will anyone even when I’m down and out myself and ALWYS thinks of others before himself, and hardest worker you have ever met and has been told that by hundreds of people and where do I get my work ethic from. Son of father a David Harold Crowley born in Missouri and Kim Jones born in OHIO, Brother of Kevin Lamar Crowley birth name Kevin Demetrius Jones 3 STATE CHAMPION MADEIRA SOCCER CINCINNATI, 2 PLACE STATE CHAMPION in OH wrestling in high school from Cincinnati OH, I’m currently living in Fargo ND. I am a father of FOUR beautiful kids “GRACELYN TWIN”,GRACEYLN DAVENPORT BEYAN 3yrs3mnths,RONALD JONES Jr 2yrs2mnths,LILY NICOLE DAVENPORT 9mnths old. There Mother Susan Davenport Beyan along with Christopher Alexander Foster and KOLBY AMOS BEYAN”Kalamazoo Michigan” AND OTHERS OF Colorado Springs CO are part of a MAJOR IDENTITY THEFT RING that spreads across the whole country MONEY LAUNDERING,CHILDKIDNAPPING, SAFE HOUSES,CHILD ABUSE/ENDANGEREMENT, WELFARE FRAUD,BANK FRAUD,STEALING INMATES SSN’s TO COMMIT CRIMES AND BUY CARS HOUSES THEN SWITCH BACK APON RELEASE,INSURANCE FRAUD HOME/AUTO,UNEMPLOYMENT FRAUD,IDENTITY THEFT/FRAUD,GOVT FRAUD,DRUGS, STOLEN GUNS FROM US AIR FORCE AND US ARMY FRUAD/SCAMS IDENTIFY, and part of the GANGS “BLOODS” “GD’s” “VICELORDS” have kidnapped my kids and ruined my life as I know it. I have been doing concrete for 8 years since leaving the Army in Fort Carson CO and where I met THE DEVIL on the way OUT. Nine years later after a long 8yr relationship with beautiful Jolsey Marie Pierce of New Rockford ND wonderful Grandmother CAROL PIERCE AND EX VIETNAM VET GREAT GRAND FATHER JEROME “CHEETAH”PIERCE. Susan’s Plan was seeded and ready to ACT. She called me saying Gracie is in danger and would like to have a family and kids so I VOLUNTEERED TO HELP moved her up to Fargo ND and had two babies back to back and raising her 3 children. Worked 60 70 hours weekly -35 to 100 6 or 7 days a week to provide for everyone. After my son JR was born July 16,2018 she ran off with my kids while at work and then the NIGHTMARE. I got a job at the Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs doing concrete at the stadium for 39.50 with Billy Shipley Concrete,and Susan Chris we’re taking my pay checks and making fake ones and take voiding mine out and re depositing with my real checks Susan writing my name and putting In Christopher Account and stole over 20,000$ and nothing has been done bout it. Contacted Colorado Springs Sheriff/Police, Manitou Springs, Attorney General,FBI,Dpt if Justice of Colorado and FARGO Sheriff/Police,FBI,ATF, Attorney General, JOB SERVICE UNEMPLOYMENT FRAUD Of CO/ND, Dpt of Justice, and FTC. I am being targeted and nothing done because of African American.Also contacted all into even us “School Zones” taken to jail and paid bail and NOT EVEN ON RECORD BEING IN CASS COUNTY JAIL ND . Involving Unemployment North Dakota, RADIO FREQUENCY HACKING OF 20 PHONES SERVICES VERIZON,STRAIGHT TALK,METROPCS,BANK FRUAD GREEN DOT BANK, METABANK,WELLS FARGO,FIRST INTERNATIONAL BANK AND TRUST, RAMSEY NATIONAL BANK, ANB BANK COLORADO,LIFELOCK 360 MILLION DOLLAR PROTECTION, DEFAMATION, ALIENATING, SLANDER, FAKE POLICE BOLOS ON WEST FARGO POLICE FACEBOOK, GANG STALKING, TAX FRAUD, TAKING OUT DEMAND DEPOSIT ACCOUNTS,WORST OF ALL KIDNAPPED TERMINATED RIGHTS AND ADOPTED MY KIDS OUT. Susan says she loves Me after halfway through the summer ran off again. So i bring for the 3rd time to Fargo after job ended and got Apt. SUSAN went into my All Finish Concrete Direct Deposit and switched my pay dates to make it look like I moved into the apt on OCT 11,2019 but really bought plane ticket to fly out the 18th and Moved into on 18 not the 11th. She has been stealing Money from me since October 2017 when I first brought her and her kids to Fargo for a Family and to have kids like she ALWYS wanted.. Her six yr old Charles Davenport has some behavior problems but most part GREAT SMILE GREAT KID BUT A DARKSIDE, Master Manipulator, Evil in the SOUL, hits Gracie Kicks her in the face when I was bringing in groceries almost put her through glass door frame, then hits my son JR with Bubble wond razor sharp cut on his face SUSAN DOES NOTHING. When I was bringing him to get help last week in September 2019 after a week of hell throwing dvds cases at kids and adults and saying he hated us 300 times I decided to take it upon my self after repeated cries to Susan to get help from anyone she declined. So I drove 16 hours to Back to Colorado and Susan tried to KILL US TWICE!! And has insurance policies on GRACIE JR AND ME. She had a plastic piece above the driver side tire rip off and almost puncture tire “blamed auto mechanics”and PURPOSELY DIDNT PUT ENOUGH GAS IN SO WE WOULD RUN OUT AND I DROVE 10 to 15 miles under SPEED LIMIT FOR 30 MILES AND HAD THE ANGELS WITH ME AND STAYED ON THE SIDE OF INTERSTATE AND SUSAN DIDNT HAVE A CARE AT ALL AND SLEPT”EVIL AND DISGUSTING”. We were also being followed I noticed a truck when we switched over at the gas station when she didn’t put enough gas in and 5 miles into the ride again there was work truck and that work truck stayed behind us and took the same exit when we got gas FINALLY and made sure that we was at least 100 yards or so when we reached HEAVEN the gas station “THE ANGELS KEPT US SAFE”. Susan has been listening to all my calls and reads all my text messages before I send using Radio Frequency,computer,or a mobile device. I have mad multiple recordings of where u see and hear so much interference you have to scream into the phone to communicate and hear crackling notices, heavy breathing, tapping,and Strange noises that are just not normal. They hack into every email I create 20+ and changed passwords 50+ and got different email addresses YAHOO,GOOGLE, and HOTMAIL. Even when I switch the passwords 6 times in a ten minute period I will get a NOTIFICATION OF PASSWORD CHANGED RIGHT WHEN BEFORE IT SAID PASSWORD SUCCESSFULLY CHANGED. I am currently LOCKED out of my phone and I purchased this September 22,2020 and have been locked out since September 8,2020. This has been my 20th phone I have boughten since January 2019 and have to another. She accesses all my bank accounts and even can get paid through Direct Deposit without the Employer knowing Ask ALL FINISH CONCRETE FARGO ND and steal my paychecks. Also when I purchase new pre-paid cards there not being put on record even when I put money on them and register and activate some how Susan knows how to clear them out the system and use them to steal my Unemployment and file claims in my name and card in my name without getting noticed and I’m to blame because there is no evidence of someone else “SUSAN” doing it or will believe ME that’s why as of October 10, 2020 and first got the overpayment debt The week of 10/4/2020 to 10/10/2020 icurrently OWE $5,400 to UNEMPLOYMENT NORTH DAKOTA. And she took out a claim 9/18/2020 worth $900 more than my Regular Claim of $8165. My Regular Claim was effective 8/9/2020 and claim date filed 8/10/2020 was on my “CORESPONDENCE” too and now those dates are gone and it’s says dates 8/6/2020 to 8/11/2020 and for some reason Job Service has me taking out a PUA claim 8/9/2020 and PUA claim 4/12/2020 THATS why I OWE $5400, but says nothing about the claim filed 9/18/2020 which WAS NOT ME AND NOT EVEN IN THE CORESPONDENCE SAYS CLAIMED FILED 8/9/2020 but still have to pay. And my BENEFIT WAGE 314 less than half of what I should be being paid and have GOTTEN NOT EVEN ONE PANDEMIC BENEFIT AND WAS TOLD I WOULD GET 0 or 1 LOST WAGES AND I GOT 4 and A WEEK LATER HAVE OR IT BACK ALONG WITH THE REGULAR BENEFITS OF 6 weeks but had to pay previous overpayment which is fine from 2011 but now pay $5,400. There is a problem too I paid 314 8/15/2020my payment I got they took it all and 200 from the next payment so I got paid $1148/25/2020. I got paid in full the next week meaning my over payment was cleared just need to pay the interest out of pocket but the total from a letter of JOB SERVICE SAYS MY OVER PAYMENT TOTAL WAS $674.85 and interest 228.96 and 314+200 equals 514 NOT 674 and I’ve told them over and over again even the overpayment division and I was told it was right. I haven’t been compensated for any of the lost money or damage to mental health or received any assistance from anyone at all and left to do all the investigation day and night all by myself and found out a lot of incriminating evidence and show it to law enforcement and tell and still not one report made and in fact been sent to mental psych wards as law enforcement “LITERALLY LAUGHS AT ME”. All my pictures of my children have been deleted and EVEN WHEN SUSAN ON FATHERS DAY WHICH I PAID FOR SAYS “ THANKS FOR STEPPING UP AND RASING KIDS” [DELETED] along with 6 or 7 Facebook accounts and switches the dates on them to cover up her fraud. Susan left a video on my RONALD JONES COLORADO Facebook of a video. Where Gracie is sitting on the floor and my “YOU CAN HEAR IN THE FIRST 15 SECONDS IS BEING BEATING BY HER SIX YR OLD CHARLES” AND THEN KISSES ANOTHER GUY “CHRISTOPHER ALEXANDER FOSTER”AT THE END. IM DOING SNOW REMOVAL IN NORTH DAKOTA AT THE TIME AND THE VIDEO WAS SENT TO AS I WAS LEAVING ALL FINSIH PARKNG LOT IN A SKID STEER FOR 26 HOURS STRAIGHT SNOW JOB. In that video Susan says TELLS GRACIE SAY “HI DADDY AND SHE DOESNT EVEN POINT OR SAY IT” TO THE GUY THERE SHE POINTS TO THE DOOR WHERE SHE KNOWS ME RONALD STEFAN JONES IS OUT IN THE WORLD SOMEWHERE HER PROTECTOR HER GUARDIAN ANGEL AND HER FATHER AND RONALD JONES JR AND LILY NICOLE. I HAVE NEVER SEEN A 5 MONTH OLD BOY AFTER SHE RAN OFF WITH THEM THREE MONTHS AFTER JRS BIRTH HAVE MORE SCRATCHES ON HIS FACE AND BLAMED “MY SON” FOR CRAWLING UNDER THE BED. WHY WOULD A CHILD CRAWL UNDER A BED OVER AND OVER WHEN HE IS GETTING HURT? AND WHY DIDN’T YOU PUT SOMETHING UP TO PREVENT HIM FROM DOING THAT BECAUSE IT WAS “INTENTIONAL AND DELIBERATELY DONE!!! WHY IS THERE A PICTURE OF GRACELYN BEATING BEYOND RECOGNITION AS BAD AS “ POOR GOD BLESS HIS SOUL EMMIT TILL” ON SUSAN REAL FACEBOOK OR SOME FOLDER WHERE 900 PHOTOS ARE HELD EVEN THOSE THAT CAME FROM MY PHONE THAT GOT DELETED AND NEVER SHARED. SUSAN IS WITHOUT DOUBT THE CRUELEST MOST EVIL SADISTIC GREED DRIVEN OVER MONEY MOTHER I HAVE EVER WITNESSED AND NEVER IN MY ENTIRE LIFE WANT TO SEE AGAIN AND NEEDS TO BE PUT INTO A FEDERAL PRISON IMMEDIATELY AND NEVER LET OUT ALONG WITH HER COUNTERPARTS. SUSAN USES 8 DIFFERENT NAMES 1.SUSAN NANCY DAVENPORT, 2.SUSAN DAVENPORT,3.SUSAN N DAVENPORT, 4.SUSAN DAVENPORTBEYAN, 5.SUSAN DAVENPORT BEYAN, 6.SUSAN N DAVENPORT BEYAN,7.SUSAN NANCY DAVENPORT BEYAN,8.SUSAN BEYAN. The Whereabouts of GraCelyn’s identical twin are unknown. I realized this when Susan left November 4 2019 after her stolen care policy scams that she pulls for EXTRA MONEY. I was on the couch and somehow got to be a friend of Susan’s on her facebook and saw the sick DISGUSTING PHOTO OF GRACIE BEATEN BEYOND RECOGNITION I SAW THE PICTURE THAT SUSANS TAKES WITH ALL THE FAMILY WITHOUT ME OF COURSE. THEY WERE SITTING ON HER MOTHERS COUCH GRACIE ON ONE ARM SUSAN HOLDING MY SON JR CHARLES AND HER 10 yr old, I WAS FOR 3 MNTHS OF HIS LIFE AT 3140 Navigation Dr CO Springs. Gracie was wearing “PINK FLOWER SHIRT,BLUE JEAN SHORTS, AND BROWN SANDLES . ON THE OTHER ARM “ BEHOLD FROM THE DEPTHS GRACIE’S IDENTICAL TWIN WEARING THE EXCACT SAME OUTFIT WITH NO MIRROR!!!!!!”. I ALSO NOTICED WHEN I WAS LOOKING AT PHOTOS WHEN WE GOT BACK 3010 7th St W WEST FARGO ND GRACIE WOULD HAVE AN EARINGS IN BOTH EARS AND HER TWIN WOULD HAVE ONLY ONE OR ONE IN THE LEFT AND THE OTHER CHILD IN THE RIGHT TO TELL THE APART. The story of Susan story shakes me to the core. Jim/James McCormick the father of 8 as I’m told by Susan and DOESNT care to take care of any of them a true “DeadBeat” as I’m called left a little girl in the back yard and when returned that young girl had been hit by a NailGun or fell and a 6 inch screw or nail was inbeded in her skull leaving her mentally disabled for her remaining life becoming The lords untold stories of bad parenting. All for the love of check from Social Security “SICK AND EVIL”. That’s why GRACIE ALWAys HOLDS ME TIGHT WHEN FIREWORKS GOES OFF AND SICK AND DISGUSTING SUSAN WOULD PUT CREAM ON GRACIE SUPPOSED TO BE FOR EGZMA BUT AFTER SHE LEFT IN NOVEMBER AND CLEANING THE HOUSE FOR THE SECOND TIME TO MOVE OUT AFTER MY MAILBOX WAS BROKEN INTO AND BANK CARDS TAKEN OUT AND POLICE WROTE MENTALLY ILL AND PODWER SUBSTANCE WHEN INTOLD THEM IT WAS BROKEN INTO AND MAIL RIPPED OPEN SO I TOOK THE EVICTION COMPLETEING SUSANS ULTIMATE PLAN. I PULLED BACK THE LABEL IT WASN’T EVEN TESTED ON ANIMALS NOR TESTED ON CHILDREN AND THE MOST SICKEST PART MADE CHILDREN MENTALLY IMPAIRED AND STUNTED THEIR GROWTH AND THAT’S WHY SUSAN NEVER BOUGHT SHOES BIG ENOUGH FOR GRACIE AND I HAD TO STEP IN AND SAY THATS ENOUGH AND I HAVE NEVER “SEEN A LITTLE GIRL SO HAPPY FOR HER PICK WHITE STRIPPED ADIDDA’S” OR BABY BOI JR’S JORDANS THAT I NEVER GOT TO SEE HIM WHERE EXCEPT WHEN I PUT THEM ON AND LACED THEM UP AND THE LAST TIME I EVER SEEN EITHER OF THEM AND MY BABY GIRL LILY. All Finish Concrete still won’t come clean and how the payments where made in early October and September and tell me I’m a liar and try and make me believe they paid me. Their wages don’t even add up nor for the wage history for my unemployment because of GOVERNMENT INTENTIALY DONE COVID-19 nor for the work I did for labor ready now people ready and Labor Masters. I worked for People Ready $85.00 multiple times at the Fargo Dome cleaning stadium stairs and multiple times working at RED RIVER COMMITIES IN FARGO for LABOR MASTERS $0 its. It’s really sad when ur work isn’t even reported or gets stolen from the person that says they love and REALLY SACRIFICE FOR UNLIKE CHRISTOPHER FOSTER’S COLORADO POST ON HIS FACE BOOK WEARING GOLD CHICAGO BULLS HAT. AFTER I GOT IN COLORADO MARCH 17. 2019 SAYS “LADIES FIND A MAN WHO SACRIFICES “ AND SUSAN LIKES IT OF COURSE BUT HE DOESN’T KNOW I WAS TAKING CARE OF 4 5 kids TWO NEW BORN BABIES and WORKING 60 to 70 HOURS GETTING NO SLEEP AND GETTING UP AT 5 am AND SOMETIMES GETTING HOME AT 9 at NIGHT, or WALKING TO WORK TAKING THE BUS IN NEGATIVE 10-25 DEGREE WEATHER GETTING FROSTBITE ON FINGERS AND THEN WORKING TEN HOURS ADAY BEING THE HARDEST WORKER TOO AND SEND 900$ to SUSAN AS LATER TELLS THE COURTS I HAVENT SENT NOTHING AND WHEN SHE SENDS ME 3 DOLLARS FOR LUNCH AND WHEN I SEND HER HUNDREDS DAYS BEFORE AND SENDS ME NOTHING FOR RENT NOR LUNCH FOR WORK AND LEAVING ME STARVING FOR DAYS EATING FLOUR PATTIES AND WATER FOR FOOD AS I SENT MONEY FOR DIAPERS AND MONEY FOR KIDS SHE SPENDS ON LIQUR AND STEAKS AND LOBSTER NOTHING FOR THE CHILDREN “ SICK AND DISGUSTING “ The courts of NORTH DAKOTA have me with the wrong name RONALD STEGAN JONES AND AFTER THEY SAID IT WAS A TYPO ON “ EVERY CASE HMMM” and have changed me court dates around and when I get lawyers as I did for my ASSAULT CASE HITTING RENE ONCE FOR CALLING ME “NIGGER” 6 times and asked to stop and charged with FELONY AGGRAVATED ASSAULT SERIOUS BOLDILY INJURY later dropped to simple assault misdemeanor Barley left a MARK ON HIS FACE AND AMBULANCE LEFT BEFORE I HIS WIFE GOT THERE LIKE TOTAL THREE MINUTES AND NOT TAKEN TO COURT IN WEST FARGO WHERE IT HAPPEND BUT TO FARGO . JOLSEY PIERCE GOT ME A LAWYER FOR $5,000 CASH AND TILL THIS DAY SAYS 5,000 BAIL AND ALSO SAYS 7 DAY STINT AND I WAS BAILED OUT ON THE 4 /1/2014 BUT THE HAVE ME BEING IN JAIL TILL 4/3/2014 WHICH WOULD BE 9 DAYS FROM MARCH 26,2014 AND JOLSEY PAID AND FINE 4/1/2019 that was for my fine for Burleigh County and when she picked me up with My friend Blue. SUSAN WOULD ALSO CALL THE POLICE GETTINF ME PULLED OVER 10 TIMES IN A 5 to 8 MONTH SPAN EVEN HAVE A STATE TROOPER PULL ME OVER 3 TIMES IN A WEEKS TIME AND EVEN AFTER I SPENT 800$ on CHRISTMAS PRESENTS AFTER MY $5,000 BONUS WHICH SHE ENDED UP STEALING FROM. SAY HER CAR WAS STOLEN WHEN I WAS DRIVING TO GET GROCERIES. Having A OFFICER PULL ME OVER SAYING I WAS GOING 50mph onto the RAMP THEN LIEING SAYING HE PULLED ME OVER BECAUSE THE LICENSE PLATE WOULD NOT COME UP WHEN HE RAN IT. LEAVING ME PAYING OVER $5,000 in bail MONEY. THEN AFTER I GOT MY LICENSE JULY 1 ,2019 I DROVE INTO THE AIR FORCE ACADEMY 3 times and when the fourth time I WAS TOLD MY LICENSE WAS SUSPENDED AND WENT BACK TO THE DMV TO PROVE IT HOURS LATER MISSING MORE HOURS FROM WORK “PRETTY SURE CHRIS FOSTER HAD SOMETHING TO DO WITH THAT”. Susan would call in an RECORD 40 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CALLS AND REPORTS EVEN 7 times WHEN SHE WAS HERE FOR TWO WEEKS NOT THREE IN OCTOBER 2020. EVEN WHEN SHE IS NOT IN THE STATE OR NOT EVEN BELIEVEABLE “WHEN I’M HAVING MY SON AND BOTH OF US ARE IN COLORADO” TO NORTH DAKOTA “SICK AND DISGUSTING” to take MY KIDS AWAY. SHE IS HAVING PEOPLE COMMIT CRIMES IN OTHER STATES USING MY IDENTITY as DONE IN SOUTH DAKOTA. My credit reports say DIFFERENT names addresses everything even after I call and mailed in the information to have them changed never being done. Being ACCESSED after “FRUAD Alerts and FROZEN” still able to have my current address 3140 Navigation Dr after I have changed and updated my address twice since October 2019. Have a credit bureau send 3 items in the same week names of RONALD S JONES, RONALD STEFAN JONES, and RONALD JONES TO THE SAME FEDERAL POST OFFICE IN FARGO ND AND NOTHING DONE AFTER REPEATEDLY SAYING MY MAIL IS BEING COMPERMISED stolen, not coming in or not being mailed to the right location and being redirected some how. Not having nothing mailed from Job Service North Dakota but one item saying I’ve used all my Regular benefits and my benefit year expired leaving me with not benefit what’s so ever but owe near $5,400 for just serveral weeks of unemployment as a “LAST RESORT” Susan has reach WELL OVER $100,000 “BETTER BELIEVE IT” by HER TAX RETURNS OF 10,000 USING MY KIDS not giving me DIME,USING AND ADJUSTING MY OWN TAXES “EVEN HAVING THE DOWNLOAD AND SUCKED OUT OF MY PHONE ALONG WITH PHONE NUMBERS” BETTER BELIEVE IT, TANIF, my STOLEN MONEY, INSURANCE SCAMS, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE GRANTS, STIMULUS AND Pandemic BENEFITS, LOW INCOME FRAUD WHEN MAKING OVER THE AMOUNT FOR WELFARE, and PUTTING ALL THE MONEY IN BANKS OVERSEAS CAPE TOWN SOUTH AFRICA ALONG WITH OTHERS. The states involved are COLORADO, NORTH DAKOTA, NORTH CAROLINA,TEXAS,PENNSYLVANIA, MICHIGAN,WISCONSIN,NEVADA,ARIZONA,GEORGIA,FLORIDA,VIRGINIA,OHIO,CALIFORNIA,WASHINGTON,HAWAII, SOUTH DAKOTA,MINNESOTA,LOUISIANA, OAKLAHOMA.
I HAVEN’T SEEN MY SON JR OR GRACIE IN A YEARS TIME AS OF RIGHT NOW AND HAVE NOT EVEN MET MY DAUGHTER LILY AND RIGHTS ILLEGALLY TERMINATED AND ADOPTED OUT BEFORE HER BIRTH BY SUSAN DAVENPORT BEYAN “SATANS WIFE”
Please HELP US PLEASE RESCUE MY KIDS AS WELL AS GRACELYN’S TWIN,GRACIE LILY AND JR MY ANGELS .WE NEED THE ANGELS FROM HEAVEN TO COME DOWN AND REUNITE US WE NEED INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE JESUS AND GOD LOVING TO STEP IN AND SAY “THAT’S ENOUGH” AND WONT LET US SUFFER ANYMORE. WE NEED GOOD TAKE OVER EVIL AND CAST IT AWAY FOREVER WE NEED ANGELS!!!!!!!! TO STOP OUR TEARS FROM ROLLING DOWN OUR FACES WE NEED ANGELS!!!!!!! TO SHOW US LIGHT WHEN ALL THERE IS DARKNESS AND HATE. WE NEED ABSOLUTELY ANGELS TO SAVE US!!!!!
FROM:RONALD STEFAN JONES D.O.B. 09/06/1988 born Franklin County Columbus OH lived in Cincinnati growing up. My ANGELS ARE IN COLORADO BUT WHERE ABOUTS NOT KNOWN ON EXACT LOCATION.
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2020.10.25 08:19 Lifeisstrange99 F/21 Guys withdraws after first hookup?

Hi guys, I am experiencing abit of guy trouble. Would love ur insights. I'm a female/21 yrs old
So I recently started using dating apps since covid hit. I met this working guy who is 27 years old (yes I like older men!). We texted for awhile on snapchat and decided to meet up for coffee. I found our conversations surprisingly pleasant (I'm usually a bit picky with men). He seemed really interested in my background and asked alot of questions. He seemed emotionally mature, successful and ambitious and even said I seemed 25. Which made me happy because the age difference sometimes makes mea little anxious.
Although I'm not looking for a committed relationship I was looking forward to getting to know him more (despite the fact I have to sneak around to meet up with him haha). He knows this too. I was also extremely sexually frustrated since I haven't slept with anyone since my breakup last year. I ended up sending him a frisky text (so I intiated yeah) and he invited me over. Since I couldn't stay over, we ended up having a quickie! Even with the lack of experience I had, he seemed very happy with our first time. Complimented me several times on my skill, called me a great kisser etc. When I got back home I send him a snap telling that I had a great time. And then BAM! the next day he left my message on read for the first time ever. Ever since we slept together , he seem very withdrawn from the texts, he hasn't initiated any conversation like he used to and often leaves my messages on read days on end. This hasn't happened before. He used to text back Atleast a sentence or selfies.
WTH? I was a bit shocked at first because I thought our connection felt genuine. I never thought he was the type to withdraw after sex. I was even going to initiate a FWB but now I feel a bit hurt and upset that maybe he doesn't find me sexy/attractive as much as I thought he did. I didn't feel used initially because I wanted to sleep with him too. I was satisfied but I wanted a regular thing. But now I feel like one time sex was all he wanted.
We can only spend the night at his place (since I have a roomate) so I tried to ignore my pride/ego and send him hints ( like hey I miss cuddling.. Etc.) but he hasn't initiated anything/ responded back with the same energy. And now I don't want to come off as as too desperate.
It's going to be almost 2 weeks now since he's been acting disengaged/ hasn't made any plans to meet up. Do you think i should take this as a sign and move on?
Thanks 😊
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2020.10.25 06:01 sylabear96 First Re-calibration game , Valve did it!

So i just played my first recalibration the game, and it was by far the best game ive played with.
5670956373 heres the match id
the dream team pos 5 techies , and pos 4 getting random and making us lose gold
why? cuz guess what ..it werent their turn to calibrate :)))
Valve once more proved they dont know the pple that play their game .. i just dont understand the "calibration dates" it just makes pple dont care about the game cuz its not their calibration day .
In conclusion..if ur wondering if u should re calibrate..ill tell u this :
1 dont , unless u have at least 11k behavior score
2 ur having the best day of ur life cuz u just won the lottery
3 u dont care about the game and the many losses u gonna have cuz pple just trolling around ...cuz u just won lottery
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2020.10.25 03:06 jandnaidndn19382 my RJ story and extreme stalking on social media

I’m 19f and have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. Our relationship is amazing, but there’s one catch: this one girl he had a thing with his freshman year of highschool (they were friends and ended up having feelings for eachother, but their thing ended after a month or two, and they didn’t even date, hung out, kissed, or be intimate in anyway).
There’s a whole lot to this story, and I really don’t want to type it all but basically this one girl is someone I obsess even tho there’s no reason too, my brain makes me think he misses her or still wants her, and I think something is going on BTS even tho she has a boyfriend....
I always ask for reassurance from him and it’s really bad. I am so jealous of her that I stalk her on all social media constantly. Facebook, Instagram, vsco, etc.
With RJ, is it a common thing to stalk the person ur feeling jealousy with?
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2020.10.25 03:05 mujasad Cheapest point redemptions for intercontinental flights? (BWI->LAX)

Have a family emergency, and wondering if it would be cheaper to use points for a last minute booking, or just book the flight with cash?
Origin and destination cities (are they flexible?). BWI ->LAX. (semi-flexible, anywhere near LA. Number of Travelers (Your chances of success goes down as this number goes up). 1. One way or round-trip. RT. Class of service desired. Cheapest. Desired date(s) of travel (are they flexible? Hard dates == Less Chances for success). Flexible, anytime in the next two weeks. Your points balances: all airline, credit card, and hotel points (If you are looking for J/K, think at least 6 digits). 150K MR. 50K UR.
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2020.10.25 01:15 chefalfalfa [Recruiting] Clash CAPital TH 11+ Clan lvl 4 war/cwl/clan games/social/friendly

We're active daily and always donate siege and troops. Friendly bunch, English speaking but we have folks from around the world. We need more good TH11+ to bulk out our clan so we can include you in cwl. Rules: *attack in wars and use both attacks *keep your war status up to date (e.g. if ur doing heros etc.) *be an active donator *have good banter *help others get better with their attacks *and have fun Clan tag #2Y8V2YP80
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2020.10.24 22:53 CaspianX2 Full list of upcoming games on the Nintendo Switch (US) (Updated 10/24/2020)

Console exclusives (games that are also on PC and/or mobile, but not on other consoles) in Italics. Nintendo exclusives (games that are only on Nintendo platforms) in bold.
For those looking at this list and not sure what's likely to be noteworthy, I have compiled a page for noteworthy releases in October. Please give them a look if you want to see what games are likely to be some of October's highlights!
As for the full list of upcoming games, here you go:
Games Release date Date confirmed by?
Strife Veteran Edition 10/25/20 Official Twitter Post
Carto 10/27/20 Nintendo.com
Cobra Kai: The Karate Kid Saga Continues 10/27/20 Nintendo.com
Dungreed 10/27/20 Nintendo.com
Ghostrunner 10/27/20 Official Trailer
Instant Chef Party 10/27/20 Nintendo.com
My Universe - Fashion Boutique 10/27/20 Nintendo.com
Oddworld: Abe's Oddysee New 'N Tasty 10/27/20 Nintendo.com
The Bluecoats - North & South 10/27/20 Nintendo.com
Gibbous - A Cthulhu Adventure 10/28/20 Nintendo.com
Oceanhorn 2: Knights of the Lost Realm 10/28/20 Nintendo.com
Star99 10/28/20 Nintendo.com
. #Halloween, Super Puzzles Dream 10/29/20 Nintendo.com
Barbearian 10/29/20 Nintendo.com
Crimzon Clover - World EXplosion 10/29/20 Nintendo.com
De: Yabatanein 10/29/20 Nintendo.com
Diamond Girl ★An Earnest Education in Love★ 10/29/20 Nintendo.com
Red Rope: Don't Fall Behind + 10/29/20 Nintendo.com
Super Puzzle Pack 10/29/20 Nintendo.com
Wallachia: Reign of Dracula 10/29/20 Nintendo.com
Yuppie Psycho: Executive Edition 10/29/20 Nintendo.com
Angry Video Game Nerd 1 & 2 Deluxe 10/30/20 Nintendo.com
Case 2: Animatronics Survival 10/30/20 Nintendo.com
Clea 10/30/20 Nintendo.com
Haunted: Poppy's Nightmare 10/30/20 Nintendo.com
Legends of Ethernal 10/30/20 Nintendo.com
Mad Rat Dead 10/30/20 Nintendo.com
Pikmin 3 Deluxe 10/30/20 Nintendo.com
Slither Loop 10/30/20 Nintendo.com
The Language of Love 10/30/20 Nintendo.com
Umihara Kawase Bazooka! 10/30/20 Nintendo.com
Freddy Fazbear's Pizzeria Simulator 10/31/20 Nintendo.com
Hidden Objects Collection October 2020 Official Trailer
Maid of Sker October 2020 Official Twitter Post
Slide Stars October 2020 Official Website
Bakugan: Champions of Vestroia (Multiple Versions) 11/3/20 Nintendo.com
Hunting Simulator 2 11/3/20 Nintendo.com
Jurassic World Evolution: Complete Edition 11/3/20 Nintendo.com
My Universe - School Teacher 11/3/20 Official Website
Tauronos 11/3/20 Nintendo.com
Pick Me Up! - Rescue Rangers - 11/4/20 Nintendo.com
Cafe Enchante 11/5/20 Nintendo.com
Fantasy Tavern Sextet 11/5/20 Official Trailer
My Little Dog Adventure 11/5/20 Nintendo.com
Outbreak the Nightmare Chronicles 11/5/20 Nintendo.com
Seven Knights: Time Wanderer 11/5/20 Official Trailer
Tens! 11/5/20 Nintendo.com
What the Fork 11/5/20 Nintendo.com
YesterMorrow 11/5/20 Official Trailer
Descenders 11/6/20 Official Twitter Post
PAW Patrol Mighty Pups Save Adventure Bay 11/6/20 Nintendo.com
Fuser 11/10/20 Nintendo.com
My Universe - Cooking Star Restaurant 11/10/20 Official Website
Sakuna: Of Rice and Ruin 11/10/20 Nintendo.com
Speed 3: Grand Prix 11/10/20 Nintendo.com
Just Dance 2021 11/12/20 Nintendo.com
Santa's Xmas Adventure 11/12/20 Nintendo.com
Kingdom Hearts: Melody of Memory 11/13/20 Nintendo.com
Let's Sing 2021 11/13/20 Official Website
Need For Speed Hot Pursuit Remastered 11/13/20 Nintendo.com
Mars Horizon 11/17/20 Nintendo.com
Professor Rubik's Brain Fitness 11/17/20 Official Website
Sniper Elite 4 11/17/20 Nintendo.com
Who Wants to Be a Millionaire? 11/17/20 Official Website
Hyrule Warriors: Age of Calamity 11/20/20 Nintendo.com
Monster Truck Championship 11/24/20 Nintendo.com
Death Crown November 2020 Official Trailer
Ruggero Deodato's Cannibal November 2020 Official Website
Chronos: Before the Ashes 12/1/20 Official Twitter Post
Empire of Sin 12/1/20 Nintendo.com
Shiren the Wanderer: The Tower of Fortune and the Dice of Fate 12/2/20 Official Twitter Post
Immortals Fenyx Rising (formerly Gods & Monsters) 12/3/20 Official Trailer
Fire Emblem: Shadow Dragon & The Blade of Light 12/4/20 Nintendo.com
Fitness Boxing 2: Rhythm & Exercise 12/4/20 Nintendo.com
John Wick Hex 12/4/20 Nintendo.com
Nine Witches: Family Disruption 12/4/20 Nintendo.com
Monster Sanctuary 12/8/20 Official trailer
Puyo Puyo Tetris 2 12/8/20 Nintendo Direct Mini: Partner Showcase August 2020
Collection of SaGa Final Fantasy Legend 12/15/20 Nintendo.com
Override 2: Super Mech League December 2020 Official Trailer
Pretty Princess Party December 2020 Official Website
Cyanide and Happiness: Freakpocalypse: Part 1 (Timed Console Exclusive) Fall 2020 Nintendo.com
Cyber Shadow Fall 2020 Official Website
Eldest Souls (Timed Console Exclusive) Fall 2020 Nintendo.com
Grindstone Fall 2020 Nintendo.com
PixelJunk Eden 2 Fall 2020 Nintendo.com
Skyforge Fall 2020 Official Trailer
Harvest Moon: One World Autumn 2020 (European Release Date) Nintendo.co.uk
Toy Soldiers HD Autumn 2020 Official Website
Wingspan Autumn 2020 Nintendo.com
Alchemic Cutie Q4 2020 Official Website
Alter Cosmos Q4 2020 Official Website
Circadian City Q4 2020 Announce Trailer
Counter Terrorist Agency Q4 2020 Official Website
Defense Corp Q4 2020 Developer Comment on Reddit
Ever Forward Q4 2020 Official Website
Metal Revolution Q4 2020 Official Announcement on New Game+ Expo Live Stream (via Gematsu)
Train Mechanic Simulator Q4 2020 Official Website
Golden Force Last Quarter 2020 Official Trailer
Clive 'N' Wrench Winter 2020 Official Trailer
Commandos 2 HD Remaster Winter 2020 Official Twitter Post
Taiko No Tatsujin: Rhythmic Adventure Pack Winter 2020 Nintendo.com
B.Ark (Timed Exclusive) Late 2020 Nintendo.com
Beach Buggy Racing 2 Late 2020 Official Website
Dicey Dungeons Late 2020 Nintendo.com
Hoa Late 2020 Wholesome Direct 5-26-2020
Phogs! Late 2020 Nintendo.com
Quantum League Late 2020 Nintendo.com
Signs of the Sojourner Late 2020 Official Trailer
World of Horror Late 2020 Official Twitter Post
Dangerous Driving 2 Holiday 2020 Official Website
King of Seas Holiday 2020 Official Trailer
Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World: The Game Complete Edition Holiday 2020 Official Twitter Post
Speed 3 Grand Prix Holiday 2020 Official Trailer
Aground 2020 Official Website
Astrodogs 2020 Developer post on Reddit
Black Book 2020 Official Trailer
Bladed Fury 2020 Official Twitter Post
Boyfriend Dungeon 2020 Nintendo.com
Bravely Default II 2020 Nintendo.com
Breakpoint 2020 Official Twitter Post
Cake Bash 2020 Nintendo.com
Car Mechanic Flipper 2020 Official Website
Circuit Superstars 2020 Official Website
Collapsus 2020 Official Website
Conarium 2020 Official Trailer
Cthulhu: Books of Ancients 2020 Official Website
DARQ: Complete Edition 2020 Official Trailer
Devil's Hunt 2020 Official Twitter Post
Door Kickers 2020 QubicGames 2020 Direct
Eastward 2020 Nintendo.com
Electrix 2020 Official Website
Farm & Fix 2020 2020 Official Website
Farm Manager 2018 2020 Official Website
Flipper Mechanic 2020 Official Website
Gearshifters 2020 Official Website
God Fire 2020 QubicGames 2020 Direct
Good Night Knight 2020 QubicGames 2020 Direct
Greak: Memories of Azur 2020 Official Trailer
Hatch Tales (Formerly Chicken Wiggle Workshop) 2020 Official Website
Haven 2020 Nintendo.com
Hazel Sky 2020 Official Trailer
Heaven's Vault 2020 Official Twitter Post
Hellpoint 2020 Official Twitter Post
Hero: Flood Rescue 2020 Official Website
Hindsight 20/20 2020 Announce Trailer
Kingpin: Reloaded 2020 Official Trailer
Littlewood 2020 Official Twitter Page
Lords of Exile 2020 Official Website/Official Trailer
Mail Mole 2020 Official Trailer
Maneater 2020 Official Twitter Post
Moon Village 2020 Official Website
Mushrooms: Forest Walker 2020 Official Website
N1RV Ann-A 2020 Announce Trailer
Necrobarista 2020 Official Twitter Page
Nyx: The Awakening 2020 Official Reveal Teaser/Official Website
Olija 2020 Official Twitter Post
Olympic Games Tokyo 2020 - The Official Videogame 2020 Official Website
P.U.G.S. Agents 2020 Official Website
Pillars of Eternity II: Deadfire 2020 Interview With Developer
Plastic Rebellion 2020 Official Website
Poker Club 4K 2020 Official Trailer
Real Boxing 2 2020 QubicGames 2020 Direct
Sail Forth 2020 Nintendo.com/
Samurai Gunn 2 2020 Nintendo.com
Spacebase Startopia 2020 Announce Trailer
Spin Rhythm XD 2020 Announce Trailer
Tennis World Tour 2 2020 Official Trailer
The Good Life 2020 Nintendo.com
This Is Pool 2020 Official Website
This Is Snooker 2020 Official Website
Those Who Remain 2020 Official Twitter Page
Tohu 2020 Official Trailer
Trigger Witch 2020 Kinda Funny Games E3 Showcase
Unheard 2020 Official Twitter Post
Unlucky Seven 2020 Official Website
Unto the End 2020 Official Trailer
Zengeon 2020 Official Trailer
Purrtato Tail: By the Light of the Elderstar 2020 "or when it's done" Official Fact Sheet
House Designer 2020/2021 Official Website
Ring of Life: Survive in Proxima 2020/2021 Official Website
Iris.Fall 1/7/21 Nintendo.com
Gal*Gun Returns 1/28/21 Official Trailer
Märchen Forest 1/28/21 Official Press Release (via Gamasutra.com)
Atelier Ryza 2: Lost Legends & The Secret Fairy 1/29/21 Official Twitter Post (Koei Tecmo Europe)
Re:Zero – The Prophecy of the Throne 1/29/21 Official Trailer
Little Nightmares II 2/1/21 Official Twitter Post
Super Mario 3D World + Bowser's Fury 2/12/21 Nintendo.com
Fallen Legion: Revenants 2/16/21 Official Trailer
Wings of Darkness 2/25/21 Official Press Release (via Gamasutra.com)
Wrath: Aeon of Ruin 2/25/21 Official Website
Balan Wonderworld 3/26/21 Official Twitter Post
Monster Hunter Rise 3/26/21 Nintendo.com
Turrican Anthology Vol. 1 February/March 2021 Official Website
Turrican Anthology Vol. 2 February/March 2021 Official Website
King's Bounty II March 2021 Official Trailer
Sky: Children of the Light "A few months into 2021" Official Website
Blue Fire (Timed Exclusive) Q1 2021 Nintendo.com
House Secrets: The Beginning Q1 2021 Official Website
Lord Winklebottom Investigates Q1 2021 Official Website
Pet Clinic - Cats & Dogs Q1 2021 Official Website
Root Film Q1 2021 Official Press Release (via Gamasutra.com)
Wonder Boy: Asha in Monster World Q1 2021 Official Gamescom Trailer (via IGN)
Turrican Collector's Edition April/May 2021 Official Website
Georifters 6/24/21 Nintendo.com
Big Rumble Boxing: Creed Champions Spring 2021 Nintendo.com
Doctor Who: The Edge of Reality Spring 2021 Official Twitter Post
Doctor Who: The Lonely Assassin Spring 2021 Official Twitter Post
Lego Star Wars: The Skywalker Saga Spring 2021 Official Trailer
Shin Megami Tensei III: Nocturne HD Remaster Spring 2021 Nintendo Direct Mini 7-20-20 Partner Showcase
Turnip Boy Commits Tax Evasion Spring 2021 Official Trailer
Foreclosed Q2 2021 Developer Interview
Code: Realize ~Wintertide Miracles~ (Multiple Versions) Early 2021 Official Twitter Post
Cris Tales Early 2021 Official Website
Poison Control Early 2021 Official Trailer
Subnautica Early 2021 Nintendo.com
Subnautica: Below Zero Early 2021 Nintendo.com
Disgaea 6: Defiance of Destiny (Nintendo Switch Exclusive in US) Summer 2021 Nintendo.com
Monster Hunter Stories 2: Wings of Ruin Summer 2021 Nintendo.com
Ys IX: Monstrum Nox Summer 2021 Official Trailer
Party Crasher Simulator Second Half of 2021 Official Press Release
The Lord of the Rings: Gollum Late 2021 Gamescom 2020 presentation (via Dailyradar)
Aeon Must Die 2021 Official Trailer
Apex Legends 2021 Official Website
Artifact Hunter 2021 Official Website
Axiom Verge 2 2021 Official Website
Azur Lane: Crosswave Sails the Seas 2021 Official Twitter Post
Backbone 2021 Official Website
Bear and Breakfast (Timed console exclusive) 2021 Nintendo.com
Card Shark 2021 Nintendo.com
Digimon Survive 2021 Anime Expo panel (relayed by NintendoEverything.com)/Official Twitter Post
Dordogne 2021 Official Trailer
Dual Gear 2021 Official Trailer
Earth Defense Force: World Brothers 2021 Official Trailer (Gamespot Exclusive)
Gamedec 2021 Official Trailer (Gamescom 2020)
Garden Story 2021 Nintendo.com
Graven 2021 Official Trailer
Lenin - The Lion 2021 Official Trailer
Lost in Random 2021 Official Press Release
Lost Words 2021 Official Twitter Post
Mineko's Night Market 2021 Nintendo.com
No More Heroes 3 2021 Nintendo.com/Official Twitter Post
Phantom Breaker Omnia 2021 Official Trailer (via IGN)
Port Royale 4 2021 Official Twitter Post
Rogue Lords 2021 Official Trailer
Rune Factory 5 2021 Nintendo.com
Serial Cleaners 2021 Official Trailer
She Dreams Elsewhere 2021 Nintendo.com
Shin Megami Tensei V 2021 Nintendo Direct Mini 7-20-20 Partner Showcase
Skatebird 2021 Indie World Showcase 12.10.2019/Official Statement on Kickstarter.com
Starbase Startopia 2021 Official Twitter Post
Saviors of Sapphire Wings/Stranger of Sword City Revisited 2021 Official Trailer
Summer at the Edge of the Universe 2021 Official Twitter Post
The Legend of Bum-bo 2021 Official Twitter Post
Tormented Souls 2021 Official Trailer
Trails of Cold Steel IV 2021 Official Trailer
Vampire: The Masquerade - Swansong 2021 Official Trailer
Warhammer Age of Sigmar: Storm Ground 2021 Official Trailer (via IGN - Gamescom 2020)
Where Cards Fall 2021 Official Trailer
XIII 2021 Official Twitter Post
Sea of Stars 2022 Official Trailer/Official Trailer
(Note: TBA Dates and Missed Release Dates in comments)
I miss anything? Mis-marked exclusivity? Have an official source with updated info? Let me know!
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2020.10.24 17:02 vicwlk How to regain my appetite and energy ... the strong friend has been drained.

TLDR: Are there any supplements that will help with my appetite and energy?
I feel so drained and im mentally, emotionally and physically hurting. My body physically hurts especially my chest and stomach and I don't have heart problems I know it's stress. I have no support and I have a teenager so I need my appetite and energy. 2019 - NOW has been hell and the hits keep coming. I feel broken but only in few pieces not shattered. I feel like one day I will say this experience has been like a Japanese Kintsugi project and I've recovered better than I was before.
I've surrounded myself with energy vampires and they've finally drained me dry and I'm on my last Mario life. My toxic upbringing taught me to give support and except all the reasons why others can't give it. My OCD and constant need to be good enough for everyone turned me into a fixer, emotional supporter, ms i got ur back, super mom, corporate climber and obsessive worrier.
I now know expecting support from friends and a romantic partner is a requirement and not an option but I'm too drained to go out and meet people. I'm not strong. My mental health is just as important as everyone elses. Just because I smile and try to fix it doesn't mean I can do it on my own. Yes I ask for support. No I don't get it. I need what I give to others, that I thought was ok to not receive because they weren't capable because I'm an empath. I'm not an empath! That belief is fucking toxic and I wish people would stop pushing that toxic trash on the "strong friend". I'm NOT STRONG, I JUST CARE! I WAS EXHAUSTED WHEN YOU ALL THOUGHT I WAS STRONG!
I was just released from a toxic roller coaster and I don't have the energy to date. I need to make more professional female friends but I'd actually have to leave the house for that. My daughter needs to get her license in 30 days and we have no support from her father's family so I have to get out of bed but she can be draining as well.
Are there any supplements that will help with my appetite and energy? Bromelain helps with my appetite but makes me tired and gives me insane sleep paralysis and nightmares.
Been on 12.5 mg of zoloft for 3 days now and increasing to 25mg tonight but it gives me a pounding headache and makes me numb and brings on mini panic attacks and crying fits at night when tapering off. I want to feel my feelings work through them, make personal improvements and evolve.
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2020.10.24 14:47 minipploserboi What was that?

Oh I said your so beautiful mother..... what would u do for mommy....oh I would make u dinner and do the dishes.....not good enough..... would u be mommies little pathetic locked boy....I ummm..... would u give mommy ur orgasms.....I I love you......rips my pants off I want to control ur tiny dick..... don't u love mommy.....I gulp as u put it on me....u don't have to cum anymore do u....I......be quiet and if ur father asks why u dont date tell him.....tell him your asexual.....because mommy owns your tool....now doesn't that feel better....mommy has your keys and u.....u will be my little pussy licker....now fuck off loser
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2020.10.24 14:13 umRepublika [26M] Big nose, maybe other deficiencies- humbly asking for advises on how to style hair/beard/anything else

Dear redditors,
I have found this sub while googling how to improve my appearance, so it moves the attention away from my nose, altho there might be other issues with me as well.
In my childhood kids used to make fun out of my nose. As I grew up I have had been having trouble with that, it made me insecure, I am to this day ashamed of it, but I have tried to focus on improving things I can actually change - like my hair, dressing, manners, rhetoric, getting educated and so on.
As I have been getting disappointed at how things were playing out, as I went on dates with 1 girl I worked on for a longer period of time - I have been googling for what I could do about my appearance, so I could be more confident. Those were the usual things like dressing, hairstyle, fragrance, etc.
This is the background of how I found out about YouTube channels which give advices on hairstyle, products to use, as well as facial hair - they told it would improve the looks if ur face is lacking. What I couldn't find an proper answer for, was on which bear would actually suit me, also what if it's hard to grow a proper beard. Thus, I had to google further and found a post from 2y ago from a guy who had a similar issue, but, as I am still not sure what to do - I'd humbly ask for help.
Thank You in advance!
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2020.10.24 10:28 BlueDaisy62 Am I The Asshole Roommate? (My roommate from hell) (Grab some snackkies this is kinda long)

Back in July of 2019 I started a new job. I was in a long term 4 year relationship, and living with his mom (we had our own house but moved in with his mom to 1)save money to buy a house but 2) his dad and little sister needed a place to live so we let them have that place)
when I started this new job i met a group of people who basically helped me realize how toxic of a relationship I was in and the potential happiness I could have else wise. I also met another guy who, in all honesty, I fell in love with.
No I didn't cheat or anything, but I knew for a long time that I wasn't in love with the high-school sweetheart and that there were so many warning signs that I should have left sooner (he constantly screamed at me and made me feel worthless, I felt like I was there just for him to say he had a girlfriend and have sex, he gamed 24/7 and constantly chose his games over hanging out with me or even taking care of his health)
these friends (let's call them friend A and friend B) gave me what I needed most in that time: a place to stay if I broke up with him.
I took that opportunity and broke it off, staying at their place for a day and then deciding with them the next day that I would sublet from them, splitting ret and utilities 5 ways. (It was a three bedroom house, and it was friend As sister and her that lived there, but her mom eventually moved in and for some reason friend A and friend B decided even though they were not living there , they would continue to pay 2/5 of rent to try to help out their family.)
I had 4 dogs and 3 guinea pigs with my ex. I only took the two dogs that were technically mine.
Moving in i didn't have a bed or any furniture besides my desk pc and TV, they allowed me to use their bed. The people in the house didn't particularly like dogs either so they would be stuck in my room 24/7 unless I took them out for walks. ( the back yard was occupied by friend As dog and wasn't dog friendly so I couldn't put my pups out there) I work 12 hour night shifts 3-4 days a week.
Anyways, because it wasn't my bed and the housemates didn't like dogs, I ultimately had to crate my pups 24/7 except for 2 walks a day (one before I left for work one after I got home.) This was an extremely stressful situation for the dogs and ultimately they started having explosive and bloody diarrhea 2-3 times a day.
The only solution I could think of at the time was to keep them in the bathroom some days so that I didn't have to keep steam cleaning the carpet around the crate as well as easier clean up (the bathroom was tile) and not having to get even more shit on the carpet having to take them to the bathtub. (I have a bordercollie and a jack chi)
This living situation was pretty shit and was even worse for friend As mom who had to share a bathroom with me and would often express how upset she was about the dogs being in there. I made a decision in January 2020 to try to find better living arrangements, as nice as it was having lower rent costs.
Which brings me to the actual "Am I the shit roomate?" Story.
There was another coworker who I ultimately befriended. Looking back it was a fairly toxic friendship. I made a few bad jokes/said things that she took out of context and we joked about, but then she would introduce me to new coworkers like that: " oh hey! Have you met (me) yet? Yeah she called me a *****" it eventually got to the point where people i hadn't even met would say oh right! You're the one who said "xyz"
Anyhow, I had vented alot of my frustrations to her about my ex and current living situation. we became, in her mind, best friends; and in a way I just accepted that. Though I don't think I ever felt as strongly connected to her as she did to me. I was really more interested in being best friends with Friend A because they had helped me so much and I was so grateful, but I appreciated this coworker and trusted her (well just call her roomie for the sake of later)
Roomie was new here and moved from Guam to live with her sister about 2 years back. During DecembeJanuary she started fighting with said sister and was looking for a place to move to.
I originally denied the idea because I was content with living at Friend A and Friend Bs place, however when the dogs conditions started to degrade I knew I needed to find a new place asap, so I ultimately said sure, let's find a place together.
We found a nice 2 bed 2 bath apartment, 3rd floor. My only condition with living with her was that the dogs were allowed to be out and about and not locked in the cage. She agreed 100%. We moved in end of February 2020 signing a 14 month lease.
For the first few weeks I kept the dogs caged while I was at work because they were having issues pooping and peeing on the carpet. I invested in one of those porch potties so that they could just go out and do their business on the porch instead of having to hold it for 12 hours and three flights of stairs. (This would ultimately become a problem)
Move in costs were a bit higher than I had excepted and I hadn't exactly been planning on moving out so soon so I only had maybe 2 weeks worth of paychecks saved and my tax return. I used all of it on downpayment and first months rent and still ended up owing her around 600$ which she said was fine and to just pay her back when I could, but not to worry.
We moved in and the first... I'm going to say 2 weeks, were okay. We didn't have any furniture but I did have a lot of kitchen stuff from when I used to live with my ex, so we bought bean bags and used those for a bit. Eventually within those two weeks we went to the store together and found a papasan chair that we both liked, I ended up buying it. We also found a nice little TV stand, I also bought.
About a month in is when COVID 19 lock downs started to get really serious in our state. The guy that I had fallen in love with before when I was with my ex? Me and him started dating about a week after that break up (thats a whole other story tbh) so at this point we where together for about 4 months.
Originally he had been coming over in the first week or two and then leaving to go home, were he lived with his grandparents, after I fell asleep. He didn't have a key so roomie got mad when the door was left unlocked all night.
And here is our first issue.
Me, I thought okay well I guess let's get him a key? So I went and made a spare and was honestly kind of nervous because this would be a big step in our relationship, so I told roomie on the way to work that I had made a spare and was thinking about giving it to my bf.
She flipped out and said I had gone behind her back and that I should have talked to her about it, but ultimately that yeah it was fine to give him the key. I waited a week to give it to him after that.
About a week after that is when COVID really kicked in and to make a long story short, he asked if he could temporarily move in with me because his grandparents where high risk. I said of course, and we brought it up to roomie.
She was upset at first (honestly I don't remeber why) but said yeah it was fine and she thought it was really sweet that he was looking out for his grandparents.
Let me go back real quick and fill yall in on one or two other back storys that I promise will make sense and this whole thing will come full circle.
Roomie and the bf are no strangers. We are all coworkers, tho bf does work in a different department (he also gets payed more which will come into play later) and we all would go out drinking and partying together.
In January, we threw a group bday party because we had so many friends with January bdays including, me and the bf. To make a long story short, it was a weird time of our relationship. We were technically "open" and we got very drunk that night. Leading to a 5 way make out session between me, roomie, bf, friend A and friend B.
(We had also joked quite often with friend A and friend B about orgies etc) when the party started dying down (this was when I lived at friend As house and the party was held there) me and bf headed back to my room. We came back out and invited roomie in if she wanted (wink winks included) and instead got her and another guy.
To skip the details. Basically the guy was not welcome but we were too drunk to really say or realize how uncomfortable we were with the situation. And ultimately the next day after discussing it, both me, bf, and roomie were very uncomfortable with the whole situation and bf honestly felt as tho he'd been violated if not raped
This night would also prove to cause more than one issue. But basically you can see now that roomie, me and bf all knew eachother fairly well and it wasn't like I was just letting a random guy move in.
Back to the roomie situation. We agreed when he moved in that because he would be sharing a room with me he wouldn't pay rent and instead would buy all the groceries. (Which would usually be around 2-300$ a week in all honesty but would eventually calm down to about 300 every two weeks unless we ate something special)
We very soon found that me and roomie had very different living styles. I didn't mind if dishes were left for a day or two or if the house was a little messy as long as it got cleaned on the weekends.
She however likes things spotless and always clean. She did express this once or twice, saying hey just make sure ur cleaning it up within the day. So I said okay and did just that. Then it went on to hey can you make sure they are cleaned up right after you are done. So I said sure, and did that.
Then months pass and she kept getting more and more bitter toward us and more angry, stomping around the apartment and completely avoiding us. Within these months a few other things happened.
One, I got very drunk, black out drunk, with her and bf one night and accidently told bf roomie had been fucking someone (she had just told him she sucked him off so my drunk mind was like oh shes being open about it I can talk about her and her fuck buddy in front of him now) then later that same night, I called her boy toy and told him he should fuck her basically.
I was drunk out of my mind, and he realized that. However she appearently did not. I truly barely remember the actual events of that call.
What I do remeber is that i was so so happy with my bf and that I thought the boy toy could be that to her and just wanted her to feel the way I did. I thought she was holding herself back.
Obviously I went about it in the compete wrong way and in her words made her feel like a hoe and that she couldn't get someone without being whored out. I apologized profusely and constantly but I don't think she ever actually forgave me.
During the beginning weeks of us moving in she had also invited me out to drink and go bar hopping and the group of friends we had, invited me to a housewarming party, however I was so tired of drinking and partying and was dead broke and still owed her $600 and it was also around the time bf had gotten violated and was therefore distancing himself from the group, so i said no. i didnt want to go out.
She begged me and often asked why bf didn't want to hang out too and I eventually told her its because he's trying to distance and doesn't want to be around the group rn, and that I personally just didn't want to go out. I wanted to stay in with the dogs. She offered to buy me drinks etc and I just didn't want to. I was tired and just wanted to relax. (Again I promise this plays in)
Jumping back to living in the apt with roomie, when covid seemed to be letting up we decided to have a small get together to catch up and celebrate missed bdays. Immediately after inviting, Friend A (who I used to be closest with) just said No. It was really weird and kinda abrasive and my first clue that something was wrong.
So I said okay what if we do another date, most people agreed and we ended up having it the day before the original day.
For this party let me add that roomie didn't offer to help clean before or after, or even offer to buy any of the party supplies or food or even just 20$.
In fact she did the exact opposite and asked us to by specific stuff so she could try certain shots and if we could buy a beer pong table. We couldn't afford the beer pong but we did our best and got 2 cheap tables from ikea instead.
She would later confess that when we asked her if the original date of the party was a good date, that she lied and said yeah when she knew 100% that it wasn't and that they had already had another party planned. But that "we ended up having back to back partys and both were successful so it worked out" (we were not told or invited or even aware of the other party. And at that time we didn't even realize we were appearantly on bad terms with everyone?)
There was also the time where she came home high asf (which she did often tbh). Me and bf were sitting on the couch watching TV and she comes in and starts asking us questions.
Basically all I really remember from that is having this conversation: she was pissed off because I had told friend A and friend B what had happened the night of the January bdays, and that we had made her feel bad for telling her best friend (which btw, just happened to be bfs boss.)
(To this day she doesn't understand why telling bfs boss that her, me, bf, and another coworker directly in bfs area, that bf felt he'd gotten raped, was a BAD idea and something we didn't want)
but at the same time she kept saying she wasn't mad and actually glad she had someone to talk to about it all now an that she just didn't understand why she couldn't tell her BFF (bfs boss)
Then there was a singular moment where I said something like "well when we were friends" or something that implied we arnt friends with the coworker friend group anymore i guess, she said "Oooooohhh so your not friends with them anymore??"
And I was like no that's not what I said. I just mean we havnt hung out for a while or talked because of the whole covid thing. And she kinda just took that whole "oh you're not friends any more hmm?" And questioned more and then went back in her room leaving me heated asf.
Fast forward maybe 4 months or so, and finally we have the outburst.
She sends this extremely long text about how we need to keep the house cleaner and wipe everything down after cooking more and that she thinks bf should pay rent and be put on the lease.
That's shes been forced to keep stuff in her own closet because the pantry is too full and that we need to keep the fridge more organized so she can put stuff in there.
That she didn't feel comfortable being out in the common areas because it was practically our place and because we occasionally would walk around "half naked" and that she felt like she was walking on egg shells and had anxiety about being out in the common areas. (Ditto)
and that she wanted documentation stating that the porch stains were my fault and that she had nothing to do with them
(that relates back to the fact that I had invested in the porch potty, and while the dogs would poop on it, they often would pee on the door or barriers instead and since we lived on the 3rd floor when they peed on the barriers it once accidently got down to the neighbors porch which we immediately where like omg im so sorry and started just walking them more, but the stains from them peeing next to the door were there since I hadn't gotten around to cleaning it (it was like a 105 degree summer and honestly just didn't cross my mind all that often once we started walking them) )
Originally bf was just going to move out. I didn't want him on the lease especially if it were to extend our stay, but we understood from a legal stand point she was probably right.
I also didn't agree with him paying rent. Or at least not the full 3 way split. She has the master bedroom with a private bathroom, walk in closet and other storage/pantry closet.
We share the smaller bedroom with a extremely small closet and do have our own bathroom however its far from private.
Yes she claims that if she has guests over they would use her bathroom but at the same time even if the stuff we keep in the bathroom is private, its not the same.
For example the times shes caught us "half naked" around the house look like this: bf with a robe on or pants and no shirt, me with a big shirt on and underwear. Once maybe with a blanket or towel around myself trying to get to the bathroom to clean up after sex.
And honestly I didn't see the problem with it with her given our history and that she's pretty much seen us both naked multiple times.
When she sent that text, I told her give us a few days to figure out our options. (Because bf wanted to move out) and she got pissed saying that it was always on my schedual and things always revolve around when I want to do things. I just didn't want to make any rash decisions and was trying to stay calm.
I'd never realized how upset she was at us because everytime we'd ask her if she was okay or whats up she said "its good" or "its fine" in a sing-song voice. I knew there was tension and I knew she was upset but not about what.
She was also the one who decided to stop using the groceries bf bought, which was his "rent" we often bought in bulk, causing the fridge and pantry to be pretty full, and the fee times we bought her specific stuff we knew she liked she didn't eat them and went to waste.
We would ask her what she wanted from the grocery store and she's say nothing. The only time we ever got upset (but never told her tbh) was that we used to also cook for her aswell, which was fine. But we made a really expensive dinner for our 6 month anniversary and she ended up eating all of it without even asking.
She also told me she thought I was jealous of her and that I thought she wanted my bf because whenever she was in the kitchen alone with him, id be in there too.
Honestly I laughed and told her God no, I didn't even realize I was doing that and that it was probably because 1)me and bf had just had a huge fight and I was being clingy in general and 2) I had hella anxiety when she was in there because I knew we had just cooked and were in the middle of eating and hadn't cleaned them yet, and I didn't want to put that all on him or have her chew him out.
Anyhow, i finally responded to her long text and told her I agreed with pretty much everything, that we would do better to leave her space and clean up and that all we asked of her was that she didn't use metal on our pots and was careful not to put rustable things in the dishwasher since we'd been having that problem with things like the can opener, certain knifes and baking sheets.
Also that I would clean the porch but not write her a note since there is a 500$ non refundable pet deposited anyhow and when the time came I would take ownership, plus the dogs are in my name.
I did tell her that we would agree to do a 40 30 30 split on rent, even 3 way on utilities, as we thought that was fair since she had the master and we shared a room. She didn't like that at all and said we should pay more because we used the common areas more and she didn't feel comfortable using them.
She proposed a 40 40 20, then realized that was the same as 40 30 30 (which its not really, we arnt joint income) and instead said she'd only agree to a 35 35 30.
I hated it i didn't even agree with the 40 30 30, I wanted to do a 45 27.5 27.5 (because according to online rent calculators that was considered fair given the living situation). But bf said he'd rather just take the loss and have us pay the extra x amount if it'll get her to leave us alone. So we agreed to that.
Real quick let me explain the furniture and why she perhaps feels like it's mostly our apartment. In the beginning we were constantly talking about how we wanted to furnish and design ideas.
We knew it would take a while but it was fun to plan. When we moved in, like I said, I owed her $600. I would still ask her if she liked this or that and she started to say "what, did you win the lottery" or "are you planning on winning the lottery?" In a smart ass kinda hostile tone. And I was like no I'm just curious if you liked this style that way when we can or if we find something on sale we don't just buy stuff the other person hates.
She proceeded to constantly ask me if I had gotten the 3k that my ex owed me (honestly even b4 we moved in together she constantly asked me if I got it) and when the stimulus checks got release would ask me about that too. Then started demanding I pay her back as soon as it seemed like I was in any way financially stable. I wasn't.
I was trying to balance making sure I had enough for rent and food and dog bills as well as trying to save to furnish the house a little bit (it was obvious she wasn't going to), and considering she said to take as long as I needed to pay her back I thought she would appreciate the fact I wanted to buy furniture and make it nice.
I ended up over draftng my account to pay her back but she was pissed because I took put the 14 months of renters insurance (like 8 or 9$ a month each) so that we didn't have to deal with it later and she decided to be petty and tell me I owed her back taxes for the last 3 months rent because she payed it (it was like 40$).
I ultimately furnished all of the common areas, bought us a couch a coffee table a bookshelf a giant gate so the dogs no longer had access to the carpeted area, everything. And I never ever once told her she couldn't use it.
In fact I often encouraged it and she'd claim she just preferred being in her room.
In that text she had also mentioned that the dogs had the whole dining area to themselves so that also made her uncomfortable (she also mentioned in person that my little dog should be in his cage all day because he peed on her door) keep in mind that I have fairly well behaved dogs and I pay a $60 pet rent everyone for them.
They don't bark unless there is someone at the door or kids running and screaming right outside it. We even sent the border collie to a board and train program to polish up his obedience and is CGC certified.
They don't chew. The worst they've done is had accidents in the house because they were either sick or I slept in and forgot to take them out.
Pretty much after that things were okay. We weren't friends and we weren't talking to eachother but we were civil.
Btw huge side note, she had admitted to venting to all our mutual friends and that she basically told them we were shit. Those friends no longer talk to us and avoid us like the plague when they see us at work.
One has even gone as far to tell a new coworker that he hates me. (I over heard him say it). Basically, that whole friend group that saved me from a toxic relationship and here the greatest? Disappeared without even questioning it or telling us what we did to upset them.
Anyways. Like I said things were okay for a month or 2, minus the fact that she had "stolen" all my friends. But I figure fuck it, they obviously didn't care enough about me to even ask for the other side of the story. That doesn't mean it didn't hurt though.
There was some aggravating parts. Remarks on her side concerning my personal life that I thought where inappropriately given our current state of things.
In that time we only really had one issue with her, and it was that she had ordered food on a work day and the delivery service knocked, causing the dogs to bark and us to get up, get fully dressed, and then try to go back to bed with only 1-2 hours left before we actually had to be up.
we told her when we woke up, hey please if u order on a work night just make sure they don't knock or that you ask them not to knock.
She said she told them to leave it at the door. She didn't know why they knocked. I told her you had to put in the notes to not knock, to which she responded that she felt like she was being attacked and that she did. I told her not trying to lecture or attack. Just tired and wanted to make sure that you had, that we understand its out of her control after that.
She then went on to say that we made noise on the weekends and were super loud when we were happy/drunk/being goofy, and i basically told her that she can make all the noise she wants on the weekends because we can sleep in, and that if she had an issue with how loud we are ever, to tell us.
She continued to say that she felt like things were delicate and that we were all trying too hard to act a way that used to come so naturally between us.
I told her I wasn't acting and I was just being me. That if my ignoring her at work and not asking her about her day bugged her im sorry but I'm not going to make small talk and that I didn't see the point in trying to small talk with someone who has clearly shown they no longer want to be friends. That she should just be herself and don't pretend or force something if it makes her uncomfortable, otherwise things will always be delicate..
She then switched her whole attitude saying that "i thought YOU said we weren't friends anymore" and that she was just being courteous and she's never been fake. And that since we arnt friends any more she has infinitely more patience for friends and therefore for none with us.
Which brings us to yesterday.
Yesterday was her last day of the current position she was in and was taking off x amount of time till she started her new position.
It also just happened that I had bought a Furbo the day before to help aid with my dogs training and to keep an eye on them while I was at work. It came and I told roomie about it and she said it was really cool and seemed really excited and interested about it. I then set it up.
The next day when we went to work, she stayed home because she would be starting a new position soon. She ended up texting that she didn't feel comfortable with it and because of body issues she would be turning it towards the wall and that me setting up the camera felt like when I had given bf the key without consulting her.
To which I reminded her that I had told her, I had only made it without telling her; that I would have made the key anyways in case one of us lost ours.
Likewise i told her I didn't feel the need to inform her about buying the Furbo because I would have bought it whether or not she agreed to put it up (it was on sale) further I told her I didn't install it till she gave me the okay at which point she said she never agreed, just said It was cool.
(She said it was awesome and "pretty dope" and had like 2 questions about it (the scope as well as how long it has been up, which like I told her it wasn't up until she said it was awesome) )
I stupidly decided to argue and get upset. She definitely caught me at a bad time. But basically I told her I understand why she wants to turn in away but that I was upset she said it was okay to put up and then the next day she wasn't okay with it. And that though I don't think she would but I couldn't help but have mama bear instincts kick in and think what if she wants to turn the camera away because she's hurting the dogs.
She's definitely expressed enough disdain for them and hates me and is mad at me enough.
She took that comment and ran with it. Saying she'd move out and that we made her feel like an ogre constantly and that she can never do anything right, that now she knows how I really see her. I told her to look at if from my perspective.
That she turned all my friends against me and was constantly complaining about things in the house and really that the biggest problem has come from her not saying her feelings and complaints for 4 months and holding it all in.
That I constantly felt anxiety talking to her and am constantly worried " great whats roomie upset about now"
That the one time we actually called her put for doing something we don't like (the door knocking while we where sleeping for work) she didn't just say sorry, i did put don't knock, but instead played the victim and said we were attacking and lecturing her..
She completely disagreed that she turned everyone against us and we had a whole argument about that. Ultimately she said she would stay quiet and stop bugging and that she wouldn't cause any more stress till April that we could keep the camera up and that she'd stay out of my way as much as possible.
That "people change..."
I ended it with no, I don't think we changed i think we just finally saw eachother for their flaws. I took the camera down as soon as I got home from work that night
Then this morning I woke up to
"Just noticed u wrote this but you're right after comparing my situation with those of Friend As mom, ur ex, his mother, and everyone else, I finally see u for who u truly are. U may not have changed but I have. Situations like this are supposed to do that in my opinion, force one to reflect, adapt, and grow."
I havnt responded.
In my opinion she has no right to compare herself. My ex and his mom were obviously pissed when I moved out because I dumped her son.
I had no issues living with them otherwise. Friend As mom, I understand her being upset because she didn't like dogs and my dogs made a mess because they were stressed, I did my best and it wasn't enough. I don't know what else I could have done and thats why i moved out asap.
She has been the absolute worst room mate and friend and I feel this could have all been solved if she just communicated better.
She's 31 years old. I'm 22.
Youd think at some point you learn to be the bigger person and grow up, like we have honestly so many times just to get her to shut up. I've asked her what I can do to make her more comfortable and she doesn't answer.
Truthfully I've given in to every request shes had, and I don't understand what I personally did to make her feel so much anxiety around me. It's her own fault for holding it in instead of just saying it.
There are countless things I did to try to make her happy and things she did that made me mad and that I just never said anything about (eating certain meals that were clearly ours, never taking out the trash and letting it overflow, only cleaning when she was pissed off at us after we had already cleaned, using the dishwasher as a drying rack
(we specifically bought her a dryer rack so she would stop doing this and she still does it. Whats even more infuriating is that she will open a clean dishwasher, not unload it, and then put her dishes in there to dry. Overlapping so it won't even dry well)
putting a lock on her door and locking it every time she leaves (honestly thats only infuriating because she did it before we even had huge fights and just shows how much she really trusted us) and honestly the list goes on.
The few times the dogs had accidents in the house, she would get home before us and send us a picture and I would just text back thanks well see it when we get there and clean it up. I could go on and on. And we never call her out on any of this because if we donwe are attacking her.)
I truely feel I'm being fairly nice and trying to see it from her perspective as much as possible. I realize I havnt been great but I just... aghh
Am I the asshole??? D:
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2020.10.24 10:22 BlueDaisy62 Am I The Asshole? (My Roomate From Hell) (Grab some snackkies this is kinda long)

Back in July of 2019 I started a new job. I was in a long term 4 year relationship, and living with his mom (we had our own house but moved in with his mom to 1)save money to buy a house but 2) his dad and little sister needed a place to live so we let them have that place)
when I started this new job i met a group of people who basically helped me realize how toxic of a relationship I was in and the potential happiness I could have else wise. I also met another guy who, in all honesty, I fell in love with.
No I didn't cheat or anything, but I knew for a long time that I wasn't in love with the high-school sweetheart and that there were so many warning signs that I should have left sooner (he constantly screamed at me and made me feel worthless, I felt like I was there just for him to say he had a girlfriend and have sex, he gamed 24/7 and constantly chose his games over hanging out with me or even taking care of his health)
these friends (let's call them friend A and friend B) gave me what I needed most in that time: a place to stay if I broke up with him.
I took that opportunity and broke it off, staying at their place for a day and then deciding with them the next day that I would sublet from them, splitting ret and utilities 5 ways. (It was a three bedroom house, and it was friend As sister and her that lived there, but her mom eventually moved in and for some reason friend A and friend B decided even though they were not living there , they would continue to pay 2/5 of rent to try to help out their family.)
I had 4 dogs and 3 guinea pigs with my ex. I only took the two dogs that were technically mine.
Moving in i didn't have a bed or any furniture besides my desk pc and TV, they allowed me to use their bed. The people in the house didn't particularly like dogs either so they would be stuck in my room 24/7 unless I took them out for walks. ( the back yard was occupied by friend As dog and wasn't dog friendly so I couldn't put my pups out there) I work 12 hour night shifts 3-4 days a week.
Anyways, because it wasn't my bed and the housemates didn't like dogs, I ultimately had to crate my pups 24/7 except for 2 walks a day (one before I left for work one after I got home.) This was an extremely stressful situation for the dogs and ultimately they started having explosive and bloody diarrhea 2-3 times a day.
The only solution I could think of at the time was to keep them in the bathroom some days so that I didn't have to keep steam cleaning the carpet around the crate as well as easier clean up (the bathroom was tile) and not having to get even more shit on the carpet having to take them to the bathtub. (I have a bordercollie and a jack chi)
This living situation was pretty shit and was even worse for friend As mom who had to share a bathroom with me and would often express how upset she was about the dogs being in there. I made a decision in January 2020 to try to find better living arrangements, as nice as it was having lower rent costs.
Which brings me to the actual "Am I the shit roomate?" Story.
There was another coworker who I ultimately befriended. Looking back it was a fairly toxic friendship. I made a few bad jokes/said things that she took out of context and we joked about, but then she would introduce me to new coworkers like that: " oh hey! Have you met (me) yet? Yeah she called me a *****" it eventually got to the point where people i hadn't even met would say oh right! You're the one who said "xyz"
Anyhow, I had vented alot of my frustrations to her about my ex and current living situation. we became, in her mind, best friends; and in a way I just accepted that. Though I don't think I ever felt as strongly connected to her as she did to me. I was really more interested in being best friends with Friend A because they had helped me so much and I was so grateful, but I appreciated this coworker and trusted her (well just call her roomie for the sake of later)
Roomie was new here and moved from Guam to live with her sister about 2 years back. During DecembeJanuary she started fighting with said sister and was looking for a place to move to.
I originally denied the idea because I was content with living at Friend A and Friend Bs place, however when the dogs conditions started to degrade I knew I needed to find a new place asap, so I ultimately said sure, let's find a place together.
We found a nice 2 bed 2 bath apartment, 3rd floor. My only condition with living with her was that the dogs were allowed to be out and about and not locked in the cage. She agreed 100%. We moved in end of February 2020 signing a 14 month lease.
For the first few weeks I kept the dogs caged while I was at work because they were having issues pooping and peeing on the carpet. I invested in one of those porch potties so that they could just go out and do their business on the porch instead of having to hold it for 12 hours and three flights of stairs. (This would ultimately become a problem)
Move in costs were a bit higher than I had excepted and I hadn't exactly been planning on moving out so soon so I only had maybe 2 weeks worth of paychecks saved and my tax return. I used all of it on downpayment and first months rent and still ended up owing her around 600$ which she said was fine and to just pay her back when I could, but not to worry.
We moved in and the first... I'm going to say 2 weeks, were okay. We didn't have any furniture but I did have a lot of kitchen stuff from when I used to live with my ex, so we bought bean bags and used those for a bit. Eventually within those two weeks we went to the store together and found a papasan chair that we both liked, I ended up buying it. We also found a nice little TV stand, I also bought.
About a month in is when COVID 19 lock downs started to get really serious in our state. The guy that I had fallen in love with before when I was with my ex? Me and him started dating about a week after that break up (thats a whole other story tbh) so at this point we where together for about 4 months.
Originally he had been coming over in the first week or two and then leaving to go home, were he lived with his grandparents, after I fell asleep. He didn't have a key so roomie got mad when the door was left unlocked all night.
And here is our first issue.
Me, I thought okay well I guess let's get him a key? So I went and made a spare and was honestly kind of nervous because this would be a big step in our relationship, so I told roomie on the way to work that I had made a spare and was thinking about giving it to my bf.
She flipped out and said I had gone behind her back and that I should have talked to her about it, but ultimately that yeah it was fine to give him the key. I waited a week to give it to him after that.
About a week after that is when COVID really kicked in and to make a long story short, he asked if he could temporarily move in with me because his grandparents where high risk. I said of course, and we brought it up to roomie.
She was upset at first (honestly I don't remeber why) but said yeah it was fine and she thought it was really sweet that he was looking out for his grandparents.
Let me go back real quick and fill yall in on one or two other back storys that I promise will make sense and this whole thing will come full circle.
Roomie and the bf are no strangers. We are all coworkers, tho bf does work in a different department (he also gets payed more which will come into play later) and we all would go out drinking and partying together.
In January, we threw a group bday party because we had so many friends with January bdays including, me and the bf. To make a long story short, it was a weird time of our relationship. We were technically "open" and we got very drunk that night. Leading to a 5 way make out session between me, roomie, bf, friend A and friend B.
(We had also joked quite often with friend A and friend B about orgies etc) when the party started dying down (this was when I lived at friend As house and the party was held there) me and bf headed back to my room. We came back out and invited roomie in if she wanted (wink winks included) and instead got her and another guy.
To skip the details. Basically the guy was not welcome but we were too drunk to really say or realize how uncomfortable we were with the situation. And ultimately the next day after discussing it, both me, bf, and roomie were very uncomfortable with the whole situation and bf honestly felt as tho he'd been violated if not raped
This night would also prove to cause more than one issue. But basically you can see now that roomie, me and bf all knew eachother fairly well and it wasn't like I was just letting a random guy move in.
Back to the roomie situation. We agreed when he moved in that because he would be sharing a room with me he wouldn't pay rent and instead would buy all the groceries. (Which would usually be around 2-300$ a week in all honesty but would eventually calm down to about 300 every two weeks unless we ate something special)
We very soon found that me and roomie had very different living styles. I didn't mind if dishes were left for a day or two or if the house was a little messy as long as it got cleaned on the weekends.
She however likes things spotless and always clean. She did express this once or twice, saying hey just make sure ur cleaning it up within the day. So I said okay and did just that. Then it went on to hey can you make sure they are cleaned up right after you are done. So I said sure, and did that.
Then months pass and she kept getting more and more bitter toward us and more angry, stomping around the apartment and completely avoiding us. Within these months a few other things happened.
One, I got very drunk, black out drunk, with her and bf one night and accidently told bf roomie had been fucking someone (she had just told him she sucked him off so my drunk mind was like oh shes being open about it I can talk about her and her fuck buddy in front of him now) then later that same night, I called her boy toy and told him he should fuck her basically.
I was drunk out of my mind, and he realized that. However she appearently did not. I truly barely remember the actual events of that call.
What I do remeber is that i was so so happy with my bf and that I thought the boy toy could be that to her and just wanted her to feel the way I did. I thought she was holding herself back.
Obviously I went about it in the compete wrong way and in her words made her feel like a hoe and that she couldn't get someone without being whored out. I apologized profusely and constantly but I don't think she ever actually forgave me.
During the beginning weeks of us moving in she had also invited me out to drink and go bar hopping and the group of friends we had, invited me to a housewarming party, however I was so tired of drinking and partying and was dead broke and still owed her $600 and it was also around the time bf had gotten violated and was therefore distancing himself from the group, so i said no. i didnt want to go out.
She begged me and often asked why bf didn't want to hang out too and I eventually told her its because he's trying to distance and doesn't want to be around the group rn, and that I personally just didn't want to go out. I wanted to stay in with the dogs. She offered to buy me drinks etc and I just didn't want to. I was tired and just wanted to relax. (Again I promise this plays in)
Jumping back to living in the apt with roomie, when covid seemed to be letting up we decided to have a small get together to catch up and celebrate missed bdays. Immediately after inviting, Friend A (who I used to be closest with) just said No. It was really weird and kinda abrasive and my first clue that something was wrong.
So I said okay what if we do another date, most people agreed and we ended up having it the day before the original day.
For this party let me add that roomie didn't offer to help clean before or after, or even offer to buy any of the party supplies or food or even just 20$.
In fact she did the exact opposite and asked us to by specific stuff so she could try certain shots and if we could buy a beer pong table. We couldn't afford the beer pong but we did our best and got 2 cheap tables from ikea instead.
She would later confess that when we asked her if the original date of the party was a good date, that she lied and said yeah when she knew 100% that it wasn't and that they had already had another party planned. But that "we ended up having back to back partys and both were successful so it worked out" (we were not told or invited or even aware of the other party. And at that time we didn't even realize we were appearantly on bad terms with everyone?)
There was also the time where she came home high asf (which she did often tbh). Me and bf were sitting on the couch watching TV and she comes in and starts asking us questions.
Basically all I really remember from that is having this conversation: she was pissed off because I had told friend A and friend B what had happened the night of the January bdays, and that we had made her feel bad for telling her best friend (which btw, just happened to be bfs boss.)
(To this day she doesn't understand why telling bfs boss that her, me, bf, and another coworker directly in bfs area, that bf felt he'd gotten raped, was a BAD idea and something we didn't want)
but at the same time she kept saying she wasn't mad and actually glad she had someone to talk to about it all now an that she just didn't understand why she couldn't tell her BFF (bfs boss)
Then there was a singular moment where I said something like "well when we were friends" or something that implied we arnt friends with the coworker friend group anymore i guess, she said "Oooooohhh so your not friends with them anymore??"
And I was like no that's not what I said. I just mean we havnt hung out for a while or talked because of the whole covid thing. And she kinda just took that whole "oh you're not friends any more hmm?" And questioned more and then went back in her room leaving me heated asf.
Fast forward maybe 4 months or so, and finally we have the outburst.
She sends this extremely long text about how we need to keep the house cleaner and wipe everything down after cooking more and that she thinks bf should pay rent and be put on the lease.
That's shes been forced to keep stuff in her own closet because the pantry is too full and that we need to keep the fridge more organized so she can put stuff in there.
That she didn't feel comfortable being out in the common areas because it was practically our place and because we occasionally would walk around "half naked" and that she felt like she was walking on egg shells and had anxiety about being out in the common areas. (Ditto)
and that she wanted documentation stating that the porch stains were my fault and that she had nothing to do with them
(that relates back to the fact that I had invested in the porch potty, and while the dogs would poop on it, they often would pee on the door or barriers instead and since we lived on the 3rd floor when they peed on the barriers it once accidently got down to the neighbors porch which we immediately where like omg im so sorry and started just walking them more, but the stains from them peeing next to the door were there since I hadn't gotten around to cleaning it (it was like a 105 degree summer and honestly just didn't cross my mind all that often once we started walking them) )
Originally bf was just going to move out. I didn't want him on the lease especially if it were to extend our stay, but we understood from a legal stand point she was probably right.
I also didn't agree with him paying rent. Or at least not the full 3 way split. She has the master bedroom with a private bathroom, walk in closet and other storage/pantry closet.
We share the smaller bedroom with a extremely small closet and do have our own bathroom however its far from private.
Yes she claims that if she has guests over they would use her bathroom but at the same time even if the stuff we keep in the bathroom is private, its not the same.
For example the times shes caught us "half naked" around the house look like this: bf with a robe on or pants and no shirt, me with a big shirt on and underwear. Once maybe with a blanket or towel around myself trying to get to the bathroom to clean up after sex.
And honestly I didn't see the problem with it with her given our history and that she's pretty much seen us both naked multiple times.
When she sent that text, I told her give us a few days to figure out our options. (Because bf wanted to move out) and she got pissed saying that it was always on my schedual and things always revolve around when I want to do things. I just didn't want to make any rash decisions and was trying to stay calm.
I'd never realized how upset she was at us because everytime we'd ask her if she was okay or whats up she said "its good" or "its fine" in a sing-song voice. I knew there was tension and I knew she was upset but not about what.
She was also the one who decided to stop using the groceries bf bought, which was his "rent" we often bought in bulk, causing the fridge and pantry to be pretty full, and the fee times we bought her specific stuff we knew she liked she didn't eat them and went to waste.
We would ask her what she wanted from the grocery store and she's say nothing. The only time we ever got upset (but never told her tbh) was that we used to also cook for her aswell, which was fine. But we made a really expensive dinner for our 6 month anniversary and she ended up eating all of it without even asking.
She also told me she thought I was jealous of her and that I thought she wanted my bf because whenever she was in the kitchen alone with him, id be in there too.
Honestly I laughed and told her God no, I didn't even realize I was doing that and that it was probably because 1)me and bf had just had a huge fight and I was being clingy in general and 2) I had hella anxiety when she was in there because I knew we had just cooked and were in the middle of eating and hadn't cleaned them yet, and I didn't want to put that all on him or have her chew him out.
Anyhow, i finally responded to her long text and told her I agreed with pretty much everything, that we would do better to leave her space and clean up and that all we asked of her was that she didn't use metal on our pots and was careful not to put rustable things in the dishwasher since we'd been having that problem with things like the can opener, certain knifes and baking sheets.
Also that I would clean the porch but not write her a note since there is a 500$ non refundable pet deposited anyhow and when the time came I would take ownership, plus the dogs are in my name.
I did tell her that we would agree to do a 40 30 30 split on rent, even 3 way on utilities, as we thought that was fair since she had the master and we shared a room. She didn't like that at all and said we should pay more because we used the common areas more and she didn't feel comfortable using them.
She proposed a 40 40 20, then realized that was the same as 40 30 30 (which its not really, we arnt joint income) and instead said she'd only agree to a 35 35 30.
I hated it i didn't even agree with the 40 30 30, I wanted to do a 45 27.5 27.5 (because according to online rent calculators that was considered fair given the living situation). But bf said he'd rather just take the loss and have us pay the extra x amount if it'll get her to leave us alone. So we agreed to that.
Real quick let me explain the furniture and why she perhaps feels like it's mostly our apartment. In the beginning we were constantly talking about how we wanted to furnish and design ideas.
We knew it would take a while but it was fun to plan. When we moved in, like I said, I owed her $600. I would still ask her if she liked this or that and she started to say "what, did you win the lottery" or "are you planning on winning the lottery?" In a smart ass kinda hostile tone. And I was like no I'm just curious if you liked this style that way when we can or if we find something on sale we don't just buy stuff the other person hates.
She proceeded to constantly ask me if I had gotten the 3k that my ex owed me (honestly even b4 we moved in together she constantly asked me if I got it) and when the stimulus checks got release would ask me about that too. Then started demanding I pay her back as soon as it seemed like I was in any way financially stable. I wasn't.
I was trying to balance making sure I had enough for rent and food and dog bills as well as trying to save to furnish the house a little bit (it was obvious she wasn't going to), and considering she said to take as long as I needed to pay her back I thought she would appreciate the fact I wanted to buy furniture and make it nice.
I ended up over draftng my account to pay her back but she was pissed because I took put the 14 months of renters insurance (like 8 or 9$ a month each) so that we didn't have to deal with it later and she decided to be petty and tell me I owed her back taxes for the last 3 months rent because she payed it (it was like 40$).
I ultimately furnished all of the common areas, bought us a couch a coffee table a bookshelf a giant gate so the dogs no longer had access to the carpeted area, everything. And I never ever once told her she couldn't use it.
In fact I often encouraged it and she'd claim she just preferred being in her room.
In that text she had also mentioned that the dogs had the whole dining area to themselves so that also made her uncomfortable (she also mentioned in person that my little dog should be in his cage all day because he peed on her door) keep in mind that I have fairly well behaved dogs and I pay a $60 pet rent everyone for them.
They don't bark unless there is someone at the door or kids running and screaming right outside it. We even sent the border collie to a board and train program to polish up his obedience and is CGC certified.
They don't chew. The worst they've done is had accidents in the house because they were either sick or I slept in and forgot to take them out.
Pretty much after that things were okay. We weren't friends and we weren't talking to eachother but we were civil.
Btw huge side note, she had admitted to venting to all our mutual friends and that she basically told them we were shit. Those friends no longer talk to us and avoid us like the plague when they see us at work.
One has even gone as far to tell a new coworker that he hates me. (I over heard him say it). Basically, that whole friend group that saved me from a toxic relationship and here the greatest? Disappeared without even questioning it or telling us what we did to upset them.
Anyways. Like I said things were okay for a month or 2, minus the fact that she had "stolen" all my friends. But I figure fuck it, they obviously didn't care enough about me to even ask for the other side of the story. That doesn't mean it didn't hurt though.
There was some aggravating parts. Remarks on her side concerning my personal life that I thought where inappropriately given our current state of things.
In that time we only really had one issue with her, and it was that she had ordered food on a work day and the delivery service knocked, causing the dogs to bark and us to get up, get fully dressed, and then try to go back to bed with only 1-2 hours left before we actually had to be up.
we told her when we woke up, hey please if u order on a work night just make sure they don't knock or that you ask them not to knock.
She said she told them to leave it at the door. She didn't know why they knocked. I told her you had to put in the notes to not knock, to which she responded that she felt like she was being attacked and that she did. I told her not trying to lecture or attack. Just tired and wanted to make sure that you had, that we understand its out of her control after that.
She then went on to say that we made noise on the weekends and were super loud when we were happy/drunk/being goofy, and i basically told her that she can make all the noise she wants on the weekends because we can sleep in, and that if she had an issue with how loud we are ever, to tell us.
She continued to say that she felt like things were delicate and that we were all trying too hard to act a way that used to come so naturally between us.
I told her I wasn't acting and I was just being me. That if my ignoring her at work and not asking her about her day bugged her im sorry but I'm not going to make small talk and that I didn't see the point in trying to small talk with someone who has clearly shown they no longer want to be friends. That she should just be herself and don't pretend or force something if it makes her uncomfortable, otherwise things will always be delicate..
She then switched her whole attitude saying that "i thought YOU said we weren't friends anymore" and that she was just being courteous and she's never been fake. And that since we arnt friends any more she has infinitely more patience for friends and therefore for none with us.
Which brings us to yesterday.
Yesterday was her last day of the current position she was in and was taking off x amount of time till she started her new position.
It also just happened that I had bought a Furbo the day before to help aid with my dogs training and to keep an eye on them while I was at work. It came and I told roomie about it and she said it was really cool and seemed really excited and interested about it. I then set it up.
The next day when we went to work, she stayed home because she would be starting a new position soon. She ended up texting that she didn't feel comfortable with it and because of body issues she would be turning it towards the wall and that me setting up the camera felt like when I had given bf the key without consulting her.
To which I reminded her that I had told her, I had only made it without telling her; that I would have made the key anyways in case one of us lost ours.
Likewise i told her I didn't feel the need to inform her about buying the Furbo because I would have bought it whether or not she agreed to put it up (it was on sale) further I told her I didn't install it till she gave me the okay at which point she said she never agreed, just said It was cool.
(She said it was awesome and "pretty dope" and had like 2 questions about it (the scope as well as how long it has been up, which like I told her it wasn't up until she said it was awesome) )
I stupidly decided to argue and get upset. She definitely caught me at a bad time. But basically I told her I understand why she wants to turn in away but that I was upset she said it was okay to put up and then the next day she wasn't okay with it. And that though I don't think she would but I couldn't help but have mama bear instincts kick in and think what if she wants to turn the camera away because she's hurting the dogs.
She's definitely expressed enough disdain for them and hates me and is mad at me enough.
She took that comment and ran with it. Saying she'd move out and that we made her feel like an ogre constantly and that she can never do anything right, that now she knows how I really see her. I told her to look at if from my perspective.
That she turned all my friends against me and was constantly complaining about things in the house and really that the biggest problem has come from her not saying her feelings and complaints for 4 months and holding it all in.
That I constantly felt anxiety talking to her and am constantly worried " great whats roomie upset about now"
That the one time we actually called her put for doing something we don't like (the door knocking while we where sleeping for work) she didn't just say sorry, i did put don't knock, but instead played the victim and said we were attacking and lecturing her..
She completely disagreed that she turned everyone against us and we had a whole argument about that. Ultimately she said she would stay quiet and stop bugging and that she wouldn't cause any more stress till April that we could keep the camera up and that she'd stay out of my way as much as possible.
That "people change..."
I ended it with no, I don't think we changed i think we just finally saw eachother for their flaws. I took the camera down as soon as I got home from work that night
Then this morning I woke up to
"Just noticed u wrote this but you're right after comparing my situation with those of Friend As mom, ur ex, his mother, and everyone else, I finally see u for who u truly are. U may not have changed but I have. Situations like this are supposed to do that in my opinion, force one to reflect, adapt, and grow."
I havnt responded.
In my opinion she has no right to compare herself. My ex and his mom were obviously pissed when I moved out because I dumped her son.
I had no issues living with them otherwise. Friend As mom, I understand her being upset because she didn't like dogs and my dogs made a mess because they were stressed, I did my best and it wasn't enough. I don't know what else I could have done and thats why i moved out asap.
She has been the absolute worst room mate and friend and I feel this could have all been solved if she just communicated better.
She's 31 years old. I'm 22.
Youd think at some point you learn to be the bigger person and grow up, like we have honestly so many times just to get her to shut up. I've asked her what I can do to make her more comfortable and she doesn't answer.
Truthfully I've given in to every request shes had, and I don't understand what I personally did to make her feel so much anxiety around me. It's her own fault for holding it in instead of just saying it.
There are countless things I did to try to make her happy and things she did that made me mad and that I just never said anything about (eating certain meals that were clearly ours, never taking out the trash and letting it overflow, only cleaning when she was pissed off at us after we had already cleaned, using the dishwasher as a drying rack
(we specifically bought her a dryer rack so she would stop doing this and she still does it. Whats even more infuriating is that she will open a clean dishwasher, not unload it, and then put her dishes in there to dry. Overlapping so it won't even dry well)
putting a lock on her door and locking it every time she leaves (honestly thats only infuriating because she did it before we even had huge fights and just shows how much she really trusted us) and honestly the list goes on.
The few times the dogs had accidents in the house, she would get home before us and send us a picture and I would just text back thanks well see it when we get there and clean it up. I could go on and on. And we never call her out on any of this because if we donwe are attacking her.)
I truely feel I'm being fairly nice and trying to see it from her perspective as much as possible. I realize I havnt been great but I just... aghh
Am I the asshole??? D:
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2020.10.24 08:25 LargeGrade2 cute date idea: park picnic in nyc

ok im literally just dreaming about this rn bc we’re in a pandemic and also do not have a boyf BUT just imagine this:
ur from nj, so ur date texts u to be ready tmrw morning at 9am. u wake up, get dressed, do ur hair and makeup, and eat something small. he comes to ur door and asks u if ur ready to go.
u guys both take a short walk to the train station, get ur tickets for new york penn station, and wait for the train. while u wait, he doesnt tell u what his plan for the day in ny will be. but he’s also carrying a backpack with some things.
the train arrives and u both get on. during the hr train ride u just talk about how ur night went and talk about school etc. u finally arrive at penn station and its still morning. u end up walking to bryant park.
he pulls out a little blanket from his bag and sets it down on the grass. he also pulls out 2 wine glasses and a bottle of sangria. u guys buy some fruit tarts from a near buy bakery and have it as breakfast.
u drink and talk for hours in the warm sun. just doing nothing but loving each other’s company. u leave once evening comes around and grab some hot chocolate for the train ride home.
ALSKSKJFJF I WISH I COULD GO TO NYC AGAIN FUCK U COVID
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2020.10.24 07:34 that-one-guy-youknow Can I get advice on a girl?

So yeah, this girl and I are loose friends. Like hungout a few times, are friendly, have good inside jokes. But she’s not a close friend yet.
We got no classes/clubs together so I literally gotta ask to hangout pretty much every time to see her. Feels awkward asking repeatedly, u know? She’s always grateful that I asked her, but still
I’m not afraid to make a move. I’ve done it before on a girl, worked wonders, though we didn’t date. I’d love to make a move on this new girl, late night hang, put my arm around her, maybe go for the kiss. I have problem with courage
I just don’t know when to do it. The semester’s ending in a month (early). Doesn’t have to be that soon. I’d like the relationship to start naturally. I just don’t want her to get a boyfriend in the interim
Advice, and maybe what point u guys were at with ur gfs b4 u made a move?
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2020.10.24 05:58 suchapain Did Last Of Us 2 Hurt Naughty Dog's Progressive Agenda? - David Jaffe

https://youtu.be/UzOW_sYcViY
Let's be super clear: I'm super progressive. Even thought I'm not a big LAST OF US franchise fan, I respect the hell out of the games and love what they are doing in terms of including all sorts of diverse characters into their narratives. But just because I am all for it; just because YOU may be all for it...it doesn't mean it's good for business. Does it?!? Let's discuss! :)
Reminder David Jaffe made God of War 1. Now he's a random youtuber with 1,928 views on this video

A quote:
so if neil druckmann and company come to sony next time and say we have this story that's very progressive it's very cool and everybody loves it and i would probably love it too. and sony i think they wouldn't sell out if they said cool but that's not for our 180 million dollar line you guys got to make that for 25 million. i think that is not selling out that's just smart business
Another quote:
kingdom says "jaffe i feel like most people end up thinking the racial or gender diversity is forced how often do you think they inject these characters to fit a quota?"
well kingdom i mean i've talked about this before i i think the more you are not living a real life where these kinds of uh people black people uh hispanic people latina people jews asians trans gays. the more you live a life where those people are not in your social circle the more it's going to feel forced. because you're like 'this is weird this is different this doesn't feel natural'. but the more you live around a diverse group of people which is becoming more american certainly in bigger cities in in medium-sized cities the more it doesn't feel forced.
so i don't i don't think it's really as forced as you think i'm not saying that every time a game maker or a movie maker makes a decision there isn't consciousness about it being valuable to some people to be diverse. but i also think that most people who make creative art don't swim in the waters of being i only go to school or i only work with people who are christian and white. and so i think the more you're inclined to think it's forced it's probably an indicator that you are more surrounded by people who look and sound just like you


Do I Have A Beef With Naughty Dog?!? - 1,264 views
A guy tweeted me about my recent videos regarding some of the latest Naughty Dog news (Last of Us Part 2, specifically). He said he felt I took glee in discussing poor sales for the ND games. He literally wrote this: 'Why such a hard on towards ND? Did some 1 hurt ur feelings or something? U R always bashing their SUCCESS 4 some reason.' So, of course, I felt the need to respond. So I made a video. As I do :).

Did TLOU2 ultimately underperform commercially? - resetera
op of that thread admits he made it cause he saw Jaffe's video.
In that thread a verified brand marketing specialist said
I can confirm TLOUII is doing/has done extremely well. The next time a figure is announced expect to be astounded. This game has done tremendous numbers and I couldn't be prouder.
one user linked this NPD tweet
US NPD SW - The Last of Us: Part II was July's 4th best-selling title. Life-to-date dollar sales of The Last of Us: Part II are now the 3rd highest for a Sony published game in history, trailing only Marvel's Spider-Man and 2018's God of War.
Another user said.
A ND dev posted this a couple weeks ago
(that's the gamestat page)
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2020.10.24 03:06 01_01_oo Abusive parents

So, when I was younger I always felt like I had typical arguing parents, of course sometimes it would get physical between them and the police would intervene but I was always manipulated by my mum to believe everything was my dads fault which is why I hated him my entire life and blamed him... it also made sense considering he had gambling and drinking problems. Anyway so I used to hate him so much that I would actually sit down and pray for him to die because at the time I truly believed he was the source of all my pain, we used to worry about food sometimes because he would gamble on his entire pay check and my mum has hoarding disorder so she would spend the money she got from the government on items even tho we had no space in the house and I remember half of the lounge being filled with all the shit she “collects”.
I’m like 13 years old during this time and I can remember us having no heating during the winter in London and Washing machine so my mum would hand wash my school clothes in the bath tub and because they weren’t put In the wash they would be soaking dripping wet after washing and then there was also no heating so they would take 4 days to dry (over the weekend) and I remember Monday mornings I would come into school with damp smelly clothes and I was severely bullied because of it being told I smelt by my entire year having no friends and having to sit on a table by myself during lessons because other students would ask teacher to not have to sit next to me.
All of this I blamed my dad for because during the time I had an unhealthy relationship with my mum where we slept in the same bed together because my dad would sleep in the lounge and I think at the time I was filling the hole in her heart from her and my dads relationship. I used to also hate my dad because I remember having to leave my House at 6:20 in the morning to go to school because he wouldn’t drive me To the bus stop where the school bus would collect us so I had to get another bus which had an irregular service and forced to wait for 40 minutes every day in the cold in order to get the other bus and this would Also happened after school So I would Literally arrive home at 6 pm.
Anyway there’s loads Of reasons I hated him at the time but It’s too much to type fast forward to me being 15 my dad was diagnosed with cancer which was really weird for me at the time. I remember whilst he was doing chemo therapy him and my mum would still have explosive arguments where he would Often throw his cup of coffee at her. I have a few friends now at school too but I remember being super aware of my depression and having suicidal thoughts. Long story short when I was 17 my dad passed away and it was really difficult for me to process especially my mum who took her hoarding to the next living filling up my entire lounge and hallway with furniture stacked on top of eachother clothes books literally anything she could find. And then I had to start working and financially support my family with my sister whilst studying for my a levels. Obviously I ended up falling eveuthing because it was too overbearing all the stress and pressure especially going to a middle class school where I didn’t feel Comfortable Speaking to anyone.
And after my Dad passed away my mum immediately started arguing with me every single day verbally abusing me all day long. Telling me I’m worthless comparing me to a nazi saying she regrets having me mentioning my friends, boys I had dated. Even after ending my relationship with my Ex after 3 years and I was hurt she chose to mention him on the same day as an a insult saying I was a horrible bitch to him and used him and that I’m doing the same To her. She is crying and having tantrums everyday over the fact that I’m Moving out but I can no longer be home it’s Too detrimental To my mental health and I need to stop feeling like if I don’t accept the abuse she will commit suicide which she’s threatened to do In the Past.
Anyway my biggest worry right now is noticing how my abuse is effecting my other relationships in my life for example I’ve noticed that I get super anxious and overwhelmed or Defensive easily. It’s like I’m quick to cut people out judge people and I have really high expectations. I just feel like when ur constantly disrespected insulted and made to feel worthless ur entire life u just get to the point where there’s only so much I can handle. It’s really hard because when I get anxious and overwhelmed I don’t even realise what I’m saying and how weird and extreme I sound but I’m not even trying I just get so overly sensitive sometimes.
(This is my first Reddit post by the way)
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2020.10.24 01:59 500scnds [Table] I'm Jeff Galak, Professor of Marketing & Social and Decision Science at Carnegie Mellon University. I have published dozens of academic papers on decision making, consumer behavior, and more. I have also recently launched a new YouTube channel called Data Demystified. AMA! (pt 1/3)

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Hey Jeff! I'm a minimalist & find that I'm happier with less stuff & when I give/receive experiences rather than items. Do you find consumer happiness reflects this shift towards minimalism since that is a (small, but seemingly growing) trend, especially among Millennials? Great question! There is some relatively new research looking at happiness from experiences vs. material possessions. Most of it shows that happiness from equally valued (e.g. price) experiences is higher than for possessions. HOWEVER, and this is a big however, all that work tends to ignore long run happiness with highly prized possessions. For instance, if you have a sentimentally valued object, happiness that stems from that object lasts for a long time. What most possessions don't do is provide long lasting happiness. You buy a new shiny toy and it DOES make you happy...but that happiness goes away quickly. My collaborators and I have termed this idea "Hedonic Decline."
So as for minimalism, there is not evidence that I know of that shows that less possessions make you happier. There's plenty showing that more possessions don't make you happier, but that's not the same thing.
One more layer of complexity: there are two routes to happiness: hedonic and eudaimonic. The former is what we usually think of when we think of happiness: how much joy does XYZ bring me. The latter, however, is closer to self-actualization. It's the happiness the comes from a accomplishing something....even if there was pain involved in getting there. I wonder if minimalism can increase eudaimonic happiness.
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That's interesting. Thank you for responding. In the minimalism community, self-actualization is reflected in endeavors such as achieving certain goals (like, paying off debt) that usually involves some amount of self-discipline &/or self-sacrifice. I'd say that the vast majority of research in happiness excludes eudaimonic happiness, largely because it's so hard to measure. My personal, non-data supported, take is that eudaimonic happiness is far more important than hedonic happiness. The latter is fleeting, whereas the former can be life changing.
the below is a reply to the above
Beautifully said. Thank you.
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How does depression affect eudaimonic happiness compared to hedonic happiness? Great question and I don't know the answer. Social Psychology typical studies what we very poorly term "normal" psychology, which excludes clinical conditions like depression. Sorry!
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What’s your take on “pay to play” - as in, some “hedonic” purchases at are required to signal you’re in the game, making progress on eudaimonic happiness. When you get older and into your career, I’d venture many people have already figured out that hedonic happiness doesn’t do squat long-term, but there’s a balance in terms of how much hedonic happiness to have to acquire for the ultimate long-term eudaimonic happiness. Example: in sales, which I’m in tech analytics sales, companies want to spend for solutions to business problems, but they also want to see, visually, that the person they’re paying is a good representative for them. High cost equals a person that can represent that taste. Nice. Tailored suits, a nice watch and latest tech gadgets. There’s a pay to play aspect that signals to the world who I am, and that in turn actually allows me to get what I want- student loans paid off and early retirement.. I don't think there's any conflict here. If you will find some form of life satisfaction by succeeding in your career, there's no harm in also purchasing items that help you reach that goal. Those items can, in and of themselves, make you happy...nothing wrong with that. More to the point, hedonic and eudaimonic happiness don't have to be in opposition. You can have both!
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I really like this response. While i can jive with basic premise of experiences over possessions...i’m find it used a lot by people who actually just want to shirk obligation. I run HHiring and there is a persistent trend of people not wanting to act like their job is important..just because it’s easier to justify bailing on work/shifts to go do things when you can say you’re doing it for the experience, not focusing on the money you make at a job. I’m trying to figure out the best way to respond to people who think i’m some big bad money grubbing boss for wanting people to do their jobs. Meanwhile, in my personal life...i feel like i’m getting a lot of push back socially from people who think i should only work where i can just make my own schedule and dip put for an “experience” whenever. At the end of the say, it feels like people will just wax philosophic reasons for demanding leisure with all the material perks of having jobs and working. Great point. This relates to intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation. The former is the desire to do something because it's inherently interesting/rewarding. The latter is doing something for compensation. This is more in the realm of organizational behavior, and you'll have to wait for my wife who is also a professor, but of organizational behavior and theory, to do an AMA for more on that :)
Hello, thanks for doing this. Are you familiar with "loot boxes" in video games? I feel like the topics of a lot of your papers would fit right into why consumers/businesses use loot boxes. How does a loot box mechanic differ from gambling and should it be treated the same? (Regulation, age restriction, etc) If they are the same, how do you feel about video games including a loot box mechanic? Sticking with gambling parallels, what are your thoughts on video game companies targeting "whales" given that gamers can be any age nowadays? I'm not a gamer myself (though I do love TTPRGs and run a D&D 5e campaign), but I'm pretty familiar with loot boxes. Mobile games and social media platforms in general have become very good at continuous reinforcement. It can be the allure of getting a new outfit in a loot box or just an upvote on Reddit...the point is that we are wired to love small rewards, even if those rewards are meaningless. Casinos have mastered this art and loot boxes are an capitalizing of the same basic psychological mechanisms: need for positive reinforcements. So are loot boxes the same as gambling? Probably not the SAME, but damn close. As for regulation, I am strongly in favor of making gambling of all forms only accessible to adults and even then providing access to counseling for those who suffer from gambling addiction.
I have a lot less sympathy towards wealthy adults who choose to gamble as a form of entertainment. The problem is that it's not always obvious who's a whale and who's just pretending to be one for the attention. The latter is highly susceptible to financial ruin and I'd want them protected just the same as they are with standard gambling.
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Do you find the researcher in you observing and asking questions about the players' decision making processes in your D&D campaign? My old DM minored in psychology, and I often felt like a rat in his experiments. I enjoyed it, though. It kind of added an extra facet to the game. More than my research, teaching has made a huge difference in being a DM. When I lecture, I am forced to be quick on my feet to understand student questions, reply accordingly, and make sure that I'm moving the lecture along. That is the same with DMing. I need to be able to understand the motives of my players, respond appropriately with NPCs, and keep the story going.
I'm sure that my knowledge of psychology helps, but I wouldn't think it influences the way I DM (or play) that much.
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Studying business Psychology in Switzerland and leading the yawning portal atm, seems like I need to start teaching :p Ha! Check out this thread: https://www.reddit.com/WaterdeepDragonHeist/comments/fcc89a/the_yawning_portal_a_drinking_song_and_boss_music/
I used that for my game and it was great.
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Could I join your 5e campaign? Ha! Sorry, no. It's just close friends and we're months into it. I'm running Waterdeep, if you're curious.
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I'm applying to Carnegie's MBA for what it's worth! If I'm accepted, may I join then? ;-) How about you get in and then we discuss!
Hi Jeff! What is your favorite heuristic or logical fallacy when it comes to decision making? Can you teach us about one that people might not know about? Easy: Diversification Bias. That's where I started my career 15 years ago. I didn't discover this bias, but have built on it. Anyway, it's the idea that people choose more variety than they should. For example, if you are going to pick some snacks for the next few days, you might pick: chips, pretzels and an apple. Those are fine, but really chips are your favorite and you picked the other two because you thought you'd get tired of chips every day. Well, turns out you'd be wrong. A day is enough to reset satiation/hedonic-decline in most cases, so you'd be better off always picking your favorite option! Doing otherwise means eating snacks that are less preferred.
A new one that my doctoral student, Julian Givi, and I recently published: The Future Is Now (FIN) Heuristic. It's the idea that people believe that future events will be like present events, even when evidence points to the contrary. An example: if it's sunny today, you're more likely to think it'll be sunny tomorrow, even if the forecast clearly predict rain. What happens is you treat information about the present as having evidentiary value for future events, even when that's just not true.
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I really like that you give your student credit. PhD students do all the hard work. Professors just bask in the glory :)
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I think diversification bias is how I ended up with 5 shades of blue nail polish that are virtually undistinguishable from each other! Interesting to consider. Ha! Just might be...
Tell me about your paper "Sentimental value and gift giving: Givers’ fears of getting it wrong prevents them from getting it right". From what I read of the abstract, it seems that gift-givers undervalue sentimental value, seeing it as riskier. Why is that, and how can we give better gifts? Sure, this is a paper with my former doctoral student, Julian Givi. Basically, people are risk averse in gift giving when they shouldn't be. If I know you like coffee and I have a choice to give you some nice coffee beans or a framed photo of the two of us (presumably since we're friends), I give the former b/c it's a sure bet. But as the recipient, overwhelmingly, people prefer the latter. So givers should take the risk and give the sentimentally valuable gift over one that is more a sure bet.
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Interesting. When giving presents, givers focus too much on the recipient's known wants, which gets in the way of giving a meaningful present. Thank you! I'll be sure to keep that in-mind next Christmas. That's exactly it.
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I sometimes hesitate at this. I don’t want to come off as the selfie culture of all about me in pictures! But relatives do love getting pics of the kids for gifts. Still, how often is this perceived as a form of narcissism by the gift receiver? Edit: pictures of my kids not just me! One trick we do: every Christmas holiday we print full size calendars with our kids pictures on them. That's our holiday gift to all the grandparents. They LOVE it.
We also send small photo books to the grandparents throughout the year of some of the best pictures we take.
We have yet to send too many, but that's specific to our family.
The best advice I always have for something like this is: just ask! People are often worried about asking gift recipients about their preferences, but our research shows that a) recipients don't care about being asked and b) you can give better gifts that way.
Hi Jeff ! I have a question regarding involvement in a purchase, is there an increasing trend to become highly involved in the purchase of even low value object ? I find myself doing this during the pandemic doing comparison searches for a bulb which costs 10 dollars. Is this an exception ? Or is there some underlying psychological reason isolated to me ? Absolutely. Two reasons this could be happening. 1) With more free time, the threshold for what merits deep research drops a lot. 2) Many people are facing financial hardships, and so making sure every dollar is well spent becomes really important.
Hi Jeff, Thank you for the great AMA. Where do you see the future of insights departments in consumer companies? Most companies looks like giving up on ethnographic and in person research and focus on data analytics. I speculate management is under great pressure and in the meantime aspire to Google, Amazon etc. What is your take of insights departments future in large companies? Thank you! Exploratory research like ethnographies, interviews, and focus groups is really useful for brainstorming. But they are a poor substitute for quantitative data. Now, that doesn't mean "big data"...just data that has larger samples and is better representative of populations. Surveys are still amazing. When we want to forecast an election, we don't use big data, we conduct a political poll. They work.
But yes, right now, AI and machine learning are the hot new ideas on the block and everyone wants in on them. There is plenty of amazing applications of AI/ML, but what they can't do is tell you "why". As in, why did someone choose this option over that one? Or why are people motivated by this goal or that goal? Those types of answers allow you to apply knowledge in completely novel contexts. AI/ML needs to be trained on a specific type of data for a specific type of task. It is AMAZING at that. But as soon as you introduce a new context or new set of experiences, it fails. That's where good old fashioned surveys and behavioral experiments come in.
If a program was built to help us make better decisions, do you think we would use it? Do you think we can listen to a program’s advice better than we do from experts? We already do. Weather forecasts tell us how to dress. Facebook tells us what to think. Tinder tells us who to date. Etc... etc...
A program that EXPLICITLY tells you what to do won't work too well. People like to feel like they have free will. They don't, though. We are greatly influenced by our environment (not just technology) whether we know it or not. As one example: I can guess your weight reasonably well just by knowing your zip code (please don't make me actually do this as I'm not in the business of public shaming!). If we had true free will and agency, that should be impossible. Instead, we are the products of our environment.
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60641 Chicago? I believe Illinois has 30-35% obesity (I'm doing this quickly and not looking at your zip specifically), so pretty high weight.
Hi Jeff! Since I'm a 14 yrs old and knew nothing about what you study, I have very limited questions I can ask. But as I have observed, people are often sheepish and will consume as the trend goes. What is the most unexpected trend, worldwide? P.S. will defo check out your channel I don't expect most people to know my work (I like to think my ego isn't THAT big!), so no worries!
You're right. Trends will drive a lot of human behavior. We are social creatures and follow what others do much more than we care to admit. As for the most unexpected trend, that's really hard to say. Maybe this is too broad, but I'm surprised by how short people's attention span is when it comes to current events. News cycles used to last for weeks, now they last for hours. I suppose I know that people don't have long attention spans, but I'm still surprised.
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Any underlying reasoning for this? For the short attention spans? We can invoke evolutionary psychology, which I'm not a big fan of, and it would suggest something like a tensions between exploring and cultivating. So it would argue that our ancestors needed to have some reason to leave their immediate tribe to find new resources. So perhaps our attention spans are short b/c of this and the current environment exaggerates that behavior.
Have you done(or can you point to) any research relating to the decision making/not making around getting rid of possessions? I have a relative who keeps anything that has a perceived value as in could be sold on ebay/garage sale which they never sell. They are otherwise rational, clean, don't over consume..def not hoarder territory.. but I struggle to convince them that the old digital camera that's been sitting for 3 years could just be disposed of. Hoarding is definitely a thing. There isn't much in the study of item disposition in the empirical world of research (lots of interesting qualitative work that I'm less familiar with). The big exception to this is the Endowment Effect. The short version is that you value items you own more than if you don't own it. So a mug sitting on a store shelf is worth, say $10 to you, but as soon as you own it is worth, say, $20 to you. Nothing changed except your ownership of it. That explains some of hoarding behavior, but not all of it.
For a qualitative research paper on the topic, see here: https://www.ingentaconnect.com/content/mcb/216/2010/00000013/00000001/art00001
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I suppose I have the Endowment Effect. Everytime I find something valuable i dont have the will to let it go. Even though i can sell it and re buy it later, or buy something similar haha. It's like I want to take the most of it and use it til it brakes, go missing, or whatever. The endowment effect isn't infinite. As in, it's not that you won't be willing to sell your items for ANY price, it's just that your willingness to sell is higher than your willingness to buy.
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Hey Professor, appreciate the AMA. A couple of questions: 1) Just from my own thoughts banging around in my head and observations I've made during the pandemic, do you see the pause our society went through and the economic downturn effecting the psychology behind materialism? It seems the American "push for more no matter what" mind state took a eating and I think I'm seeing some consequences of that. 1) It's possible, but my pretty strong prediction is that within 1-2 years of the pandemic ending, we will be back to where we were beforehand in terms of materialism and general behavior. Extreme events like a pandemic seem like they are life changers. For some, that's true (e.g. someone loses a loved one), but for most it's not. We are inherently myopic and think that the thing in front of our noses is the only thing that exists.
2) I'm a current medical student and we get inundated with so many studies that it's overwhelming. Trying to practice evidence based medicine is really hard in an atmosphere that prioritizes publishing with little regard to quality. Do you ha e ways of navigating that I could apply to my day to day? Thanks again. 2) I can't speak to medical research, but that problem exists in all academic fields. The best thing to do is to let science happen. There will always be flashy new findings, but the ones that really matter will get replicated over and over again...and will get built on. The BS ones tend to just die out. That's not a full proof approach to vetting research, but it's better than just assuming everything you see published is true and/or important.
I am a former CMU student. How do you feel about CMU's decision to appoint Richard Grenell as a senior fellow? And how can we do something to fight against it because it seems they are not listening the current student body? Recently, the fence was vandalized against BLM (they wrote "all lives matter" over the previously written "black lives matter"). How are you working to build a more inclusive community at CMU and to fight for those who need it? How can former students help? I signed the petition to revoke his appointment and stand by that completely. I do understand why the university is upholding it, but I am embarrassed to have him associated with CMU.
As for the fence, the CMU Provost sent a really great letter immediately after it all happened condemning the vandalism and supporting BLM. Personally, I try VERY hard to do things like call on students of all races and genders and not let white men (of which I am one, btw) dominate conversations. I try to make sure that examples I use to highlight ideas include more than just typically white and/or male oriented products. I have been trained in Green Dot deescalation for sexual assault and violence. I am on the university academic disciplinary committee and have direct say over infractions like harassment or discrimination. And I sit on my college's Faculty Diversity Equity and Inclusion committee with the hope of including representation and inclusion of URM and female faculty. I care about this topic a LOT and do what I can...still probably not enough.
As for alums, if you see behavior at CMU that you think is antithetical to inclusiveness, let the administration know. Get your fellow alums to weigh in. The university wants your sweet sweet alumni donations. If you are all pissed off, they'll reply.
Hey Professor! I absolutely love to give. But I feel so awkward being thanked. And I dont really like receiving gifts. What would the psychology behind that be? Great question. It's hard to know without more detail, but I'd guess that some of that anxiety is about attention...as in, your lack of desire for it. As for not liking receiving gifts, maybe you have just not received that many good gifts? Again, it's really hard to say without knowing a bit more about you and the gift giving contexts you're involved in. If you want to share more, I can try to answer better, but totally understandable if you don't!
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Well, if I think more deeply....whenever I need something, I feel like it's up to me to make me happy. I usually don't really ask anyone else. Whether I need a massage, have a getaway, or get my dream dog, I just do it myself. As an aside, self-gifts are great! You get what you need, and nothing else. No issues there.
To your question, though, I do wonder if you just haven't receive that many great gifts. Yes, gifts can fall flat and the recipient might not love them, but when they hit, they not only provide the value from the gift itself (e.g. a great bottle of wine) but ALSO the sentimental value from the associations that the gift brings up (e.g. who gave it to you and under what circumstances...like for a birthday or graduation).
Hi Jeff, I have a job application at a place where they do conjoint analysis, something I have never done before. Got any tips? Do you have any thoughts on the technique in general? Personally as someone who takes surveys I find it very abstract (e.g. "Would you rather buy a $5 toaster with two slots vs. a $20 toaster that takes bagels?" I don't know!). First, good luck with the job application! Conjoint is a really useful tool when used correctly (like any tool, I suppose). The short version is that it lets you extract utility weights for different dimensions (e.g. price, product size, product speed, etc...) without directly asking people to answer questions about those dimensions. So instead of saying "how important is price to you?" you would come up with product profiles that have varying price (among other things) and then have people choose between those profiles. You can then extract, using nothing more than regression analysis (though, practically, no one does it that way...they use software like Sawtooth or SPSS Conjoint), how important those dimensions are for any given person.
the technique is tedious in that respondents have to make LOTS of pair-wise comparisons, but the end product can teach you a lot about what people actually value.
One key is to make the task as simple and realistic as possible. So the example you gave is confusing and wouldn't work too well. But I asked you to choose between a $20 toaster with 2 slots vs. a $30 toaster with 3 slots" that would work (in reality it would be more complex than that). You'd be forced to tell me if you prefer a cheaper toaster with fewer slots or a more expensive one with more slots. There's not right answer, but I would learn about those two dimensions for you. I'd need a lot more pair-wise tradeoffs to do this right, but that's the general idea.
Do you find that there are significant differences between particular groups? Does age influence gift giving habits more then sex, or some other factor? Just curious about the general trends of gift giving between groups. Super general question I know, so feel free to just call me out on it Definitely difference across genders as you would expect. More jewelry given by men to women. More gadgets given by women to men. Not so much in terms of age, though I've never really directly looked at that. The reality is that most gifts aren't that exciting. They tend to be things that are popular in a given year or old standbys like gift cards and ties. There certainly are amazing gifts and gift givers out there, but the vast majority of actual gifts given are pretty mundane. But that's not a bad thing if the recipient still likes what they get!
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Yeah, sounds about right. And yeah if everyone is chipper it's all good :) Is there a sort of gift quality vs quantity data? Like is it better to get more frequent smaller gifts or largemore expensive gifts less frequently? Smaller more frequent gifts every time. I have some new work on obligatory vs. non-obligatory gifts. Basically, you can make someone very happy by giving a small gift on a random Tuesday compared to a much nicer gift on their Birthday. More random-tuesday gifts every time!
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Thank you! :) will the results of that be on ur channel? Probably not. The channel isn't about my research, but rather about how to understand data more broadly. But the results will hopefully be published soon!
How extensive are the consumer psychology divisions in companies like apple? Lots of variation. Places like apple, google, amazon will have a lot of depth in terms of psychologist and consumer behavior researchers. But those are the gold standard. Most will rely on consultants to help out
How does education on finance and economics affect consumer behavior? Does knowing the way our brains make consumer decisions or how businesses try to get you to buy change how you shop? If you understand better how firms are trying to entice you to buy their products, you can absolutely counteract that better. For instance, $1.99 is really just $2...we all get that. But it turns out, having a 9-ending price really drives demand. That's nuts, but it does. IF you understand that, you stand a shot and not being duped by something so trivial. So educating yourself can be a big help. On finance and econ eduction, also really helpful, but in other ways. When you go to get a 30-year mortgage for your home, understanding how interest rates work, how inflation might affect home prices, how amortization tables work, etc... will help you make a much more informed decision about what is right for you.
hi! how do you predict consumer happiness/decision making etc during unprecedented times like this, when such a scenario may not have taken place before and you do not have much data to go on? also since the research you do and the data you collect are relevant to sales, do you see advertisements being affected by the pandemic in the long run from any changes in consumer mindset? It's really hard to predict much of anything right now. There are some basic behaviors and experiences that we can expect during a pandemic (e.g. increased anxiety, defaulting to familiar experiences, increased online shopping), but the reality is you're right...we just don't know. There's virtually no data on pandemic psychology/behavior, and all the pop-science stuff you read is just guessing at what will happen.
As for advertising, I think that once the pandemic is over, life will be back to what it was beforehand in almost every respect. People are amazing to adapting to changing circumstances. We are all doing that now with the pandemic and will all do that again when it's over. I don't think that advertising will be any different. Give it a year after we're all vaccinated (or whatever winds up being the solution) and most people will largely forget that we even had a pandemic. Yes, some will have big changes like lost loved ones or lost jobs, but for most people, life will return to what it was before Covid hit.
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thank you for answering, that is very interesting! the data you collect seems to be applicable to so many different fields. i asked about advertising as a student interested in media, but i can see it being useful in various types of companies be it internet security, food, travel etc. your job sounds really cool and i will definitely check out your YouTube channel :) Thanks!
Did you ever get to meet Herbert Simon? Wasn't he interested in similar things? I wish! I've been at CMU for 11 years. Simon passed away in 2001, so I missed him by a few years.
And yes, Simon was one of the original researchers into what's known as Bounded Rationality, it's the idea that humans don't act like computers and process all information simultaneously, but rather use heuristics and shortcuts to accomplish most tasks.
How influential was the work of Daniel Kahnemann to your current teaching? VERY! I don't know Danny personally, but my advisor got his PhD at Princeton when Danny was there, so lots of indirect influence that way. More generally, the field of decision making was build on his (and others) work, so hard not to be influenced.
Do you have any opinions on investors behavior during covid 19? More specifically how certain financial firms may have targeted people who have or would dabble in market that have recently lost work due to the pandemic? Caveat: I am not a finance professor. That said, my read is that fear of missing out (FOMO) is driving a lot of unexpected behaviors. The market has rallied like crazy since the March low and everyone wants in on that. It's hard to sit by and watch others make a killing while you don't.
As for practices like getting people who don't typically to invest to do so, there's two sides to this. On the one hand, getting more people involved with investing is a great thing. It used to be only that the very wealthy could invest and reap the benefits of the market, but now with places like Robinhood and fee-free trading on Schwab and the like, everyone can participate. On the other hand, MANY people don't understand risk well at all. They just see the possible upside and ignore the possibility of losing a lot (see that guy that committed suicide b/c of a terrible options trade...that's horrible). So firms and gov't have a responsibility to both educate investors and provide safeguards against uninformed behaviors.
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Hello, I just want to specify something in your comment! The young college student who committed suicide did so because a misprogrammed number on the trading site, Robinhood. Of course at the time he did not know it, but the value loss that was near $800,000, was showing the loss of the entire option, not his equity in the option, which was -$1,000 - -$2,000 if I remember right. It was Robinhood's terrible interface, not his misunderstanding of risk, which is horrible. If you would like a misunderstanding of risk on trading platforms, look no further than wallstreetbets, of course as you said FOMO is a huge factor, or if you're interested, some trading platforms intentionally advertise to consumers without properly representing risk. Thank you very much for this AMA, it has been quite insightful! Thanks so much for that clarification!
I have a question re: dating sites / apps. Is there a way to structure incentives so that the company is motivated to find good pairings between users? It feels like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, etc. don't have such an incentive currently I think they do have an incentive to make good pairings. Word of mouth is their strongest asset so having good matches is key. The challenge is that good matches are hard to come by and not everyone agrees on what good is. Is good marriage? Is it a fun night? Not clear.
Hello Professor and thank you for taking this time. As a professional that works in marketing and a person who suffers from mental illnesses, it is often disheartening for me to see so much valuable research and findings be easily made available for use by companies for marketing and consumer exploitation while it is so difficult for those who are struggling to find information that could be beneficial to living their lives more freely. What are your thoughts on this, and do you think there are ways we could change the system to better benefit individuals needs directly? The connection between marketing academia, marketing industry, and consumers just sucks. No one outside of academia reads marketing academic journals. Few in academia care if their work has applications (even in an applied field like marketing). And consumers can't be bothered (rightfully) to read through academic work to learn.
Some solutions that I've seen that work: - Marketing Science Institute: this is an organization whose entire goal is link academia and practice. They have conferences where they invite folks from both sides to collaborate. More of this please! - Pop-science social science books like Freakonomics, Blink, Predictably Irrational, etc...: They all have plenty of shortcomings, but the authors all do an amazing job of conveying the ideas of academia to the public. I think that's fantastic. More of this too please! - Consulting for non-profits. I do this and many others do as well. We use our knowledge to help non-profits do their amazing work. This is a way to avoid that "exploitation" you mentioned and instead use what we know to help others. There's not much money in this kind of consulting, which is why few do it, but it's really important. Maybe some kind of granting agency could earmark money for non-profits to hire academic consultants to help them use what we know to help the world. That would be awesome
hey, I'm a recent advertisement graduate, it's good to see someone from such a familiar field here anyways, when I do groceries, I always follow the list to a T, and I take no time at all getting the items, basically, I go against every little trick supermarkets have to "seduce" the customer, so my question is: what makes someone a "good customer"? is it someone highly susceptible to the marketing tricks at the market or someone who spends both their money and time more efficiently? Good can mean different things here. You sound like you're probably super loyal to products. That's pretty great for most companies. The fact that you don't succumb to unintended purchases definitely makes you less attractive in one capacity, but your predictability makes you very attractive in other ways. If I could run a company where every customer always bought the same thing every week, I would LOVE that. I would know how to schedule raw material purchases, delivery schedules, etc... I would have a steady and dependable income. If, however, I relied just on getting lucky and catching the eye of customers as they passed my products on store shelves, that would be a whole lot more difficult a business plan to execute.
Hi Jeff, I have always geared my life towards maxing out the benefits and deducting the losses for example leaving my family in order to search for better life oportunities, ditching jobs where I felt safe in favor of new and more promising ones. And by this logic I have reached quIte far in my life. But at the end achieving all this goals don't yields the expected satisfaction. However I'm pretty sure that don't doing this would be even worse. Why does it seems that no matter if the desitions taken are the best at my point of view it still seems like I need more than the goals I have achieved. Why is disatisfaction the expected result? Wow, that's a lot to give up for goals! People are inherently likely to make what are known as upward comparisons. We don't look at the people who we have done better than, but instead focus on the few who done better than us. The classic example is Silver Olympic medalists. They should be elated, but instead they just covet the Gold medalist.
Beyond that, in your specific case, it's hard to say for sure, but we know that close relationships are the number one driver of life satisfaction. If you've given those all up in pursuit of some other goal, that might explain things a bit. Take that with a grain of salt as all I know about you is summed up in 100 words or so!
Hello Jeff, glad to see this AMA here! I'm a statistics student in Brazil (one of my professors got his doctorate degree at Carnegie Mellon University, in fact!). Much of what we learn nowadays is related to careers pertaining the finance fields. Other stuff includes academic research mixed with other fields. I see myself as a data analyst for a big bank someday, but I always think: is there any career for a data scientist thats underrated by modern standards but still awesome and rewarding, in your opinion? Go work for a non-profit! It's now where the money is, but many need help from data scientists. You can actually change the world that way!
Which US dollar bill is your favorite? Cash? You still use cash?
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For coke yeah Oh, in that case.... Nope, not replying and losing my tenure :)
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Prof, you have a bias. OP mean Coca Cola. I don't drink soda either :)
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2020.10.24 00:41 Truelove2099 New SB, meeting POT. Is this normal?

Hi everyone. I am quite new to the sugarbowl. I never really had a SR. Just some spoiling boyfriends.
This all happened in a 3 week timeline. I had a m&g with this sd. It went really well we had a nice dinner. We clicked and could talk for hours. He told me he didn’t look at the time once and had a really great time. Allowance or ppm didn’t came up. He just had a very short moment of telling me that he wasn’t feeling the girls on SA who were asking for pay for pics or a m&g. I didn’t talk about money at all. It was more of a natural vanilla dating feeling as I was feeling attracted to him.
The second date came up, and because of corona rules we couldn’t go out for dinner. He invited me over. He always picked me up and brings me home again - he lives 1,5 hour drive away so to see me he just drives 6 hours - and we ordered some food and just cuddled on his couch. He’s definitely well off, he drives a really nice car and lives in a penthouse in the capital. Allowance or anything else like that didn’t came up. Because it just feels natural. We are both not really texters. He texts me everyday but we don’t really have conversations on there. (I know what ur thinking, but he’s divorced)
Okay so... 3th date came up. Still no talk about allowance. We did a stroll around the city and he brought me to a very expensive designer shoe store. He got me some very nice and fancy boots. After that (everything else was closed) we went back to his place and ordered some food (everywhere else is closed) we were intimate and honestly we had a lot of fun. We definitely have the same interests in that aspect as well. It just feels very good to be with him he’s very funny. But still no talk about allowance whatsoever.
However i feel kind of awkward talking about this. I dont know why. And i just don’t know how to bring it up. So i was wondering what would you do? This all feels very vanilla for me. I would never date this man if we met on the streets. He’s 17 years older than me but not very bad looking. I am actually very attracted to him which is weird to me. Should I just keep meeting him for some shopping once in a while or is it not worth it. I can’t find to seem men who are real sugardaddy don’t know what I’m doing wrong.
And i don’t sleep around that much either. I am 23 and have had 3 bedpartners all of my life including this man lol. So it was weird for me to be feeling that way. Help lol
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2020.10.24 00:20 BruhBerger WAIT!

so sone of you guys didnt even notice that before ted and stella started dating he said that if theg broke up it wouldnt be because of some rule, but they broke up because of the rule yoh cant bring ur exes to ur wedding.
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2020.10.23 22:44 trtblastcruise Girl (22F) stopped dating me (24M) because I keep napkins in my car? Lol

Went on a few dates with this girl, I’d pick her up every time and we’d fuck at her place after. Then I’d leave because I work earlier than her in the morning. Last date we went on we got some drinks first and then got some ice cream that we decided to eat in the car. After we were done I picked out a tissue/napkin from the box behind the seat and this dumb girl is like “yOu KeEp nApKiNs iN YoUr CaR” ? I’m like yeah, how the fuck else are you supposed to clean your hands?? Lmao. On top of it I drive a nice ass car so I’d rather not spill in it.
Needless to say after that night we haven’t talked. Good riddance. Girl nasty.
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2020.10.23 22:36 Ok_Trip8273 UMichigan Status Checker

So I checked my status on Tuesday and it finally went complete then (10/20), but I checked again today (yes, I am anxious) and my app is still "Complete" but the date changed to 10/23. Does this mean I am UR? Or does UM just change the status date whenever you check it?
If it helps, UM describes Complete as "Your application has been processed by our data-entry staff and submitted for review by our file readers"

Thanks in advance for the help!
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